Friday, March 05, 2021

I Didn't Say It ...

Sir Ian McKellen, urging gay people to be fierce allies to trans people:

"I do hear people—gay people—talk about transgender people in very much the same terms as people used to talk about your common or garden gay. ‘The connection between us all is we come under the queer umbrella – we are queer. I quite like being queer actually. The problems that transgender people have with the law are not dissimilar from what used to be the case for us, so I think we should all be allies really. But you say that, and the wrath of God comes down on you from certain quarters."
We cannot ever forget that it was trans women who rioted at Stonewall in 1969. It was trans women who paved the way for the rest of us to fight for our equality.

And we cannot, should not, will not, forget them, or let their struggle, which continues today and is far harder than ours, be only their struggle. The struggle for equality is for all of us.


Devin Ibañez, pro rugby player who played with the New England Skipjacks, coming out  on social media:

“As 2020 comes to a close I took the time to reflect on my life and what aspects I could control and make positive changes to that would impact my day-to-day life and happiness. It became clear to me that living my life with more transparency and openly celebrating who I love would have an immediate positive impact on me and those I care about. So, I want to start 2021 by celebrating the love of my life and my partner [Fergus Wade] who has been with me through the highs and the (very) lows of the last three years. I am openly gay. This is something that is not a secret to those close to me and even several people not close to me. But I always felt a need to keep it separate from my rugby career. I always came up with a reason why being more vocal would be a distraction, detrimental, or unnecessary. As the years went by no level of success was enough to justify potentially losing opportunities within the sport, jeopardizing relationships, or making myself a target on the pitch. The final goal became ‘Once I sign a pro contract I will be more vocal and become the first openly gay MLR player’. As the day came and went that I signed [that] contract … I moved the goalposts even further. This was largely fueled by a narrative I told myself that unless I left no doubt about deserving my spot that I would be viewed as a token and not a true professional. But what I considered as casting a shadow I’ve slowly realized can also act as a beacon. So, I have decided to embrace what I once felt embarrassed of and be proudly and shamelessly myself. I have met some incredibly talented LGBTQ rugby players over the years, many of whom were blackballed from playing a high level solely due to being gay. As of now I am the only openly gay rugby player to earn a contract with an MLR side. I hope that I will meet others Iike myself playing a high level of rugby and hoping to inspire the next generation of proud LGBTQ rugby players. So I will proudly call myself ‘that gay rugger’ in hopes that one day it won’t sound strange in men’s rugby.”

2021 and we are still struggling to come out because of fear of what ‘others ‘might think. It’s time to realize that it doesn’t matter about those ‘others, ‘and that only what makes us happy should be considered.

Be a gay rugger. Be a rough looking gay rugger.


Demi Lovato, actress and singer, saying that gender reveal parties are transphobic:

“This is not about being politically correct, it’s about being correct. The refusal to acknowledge this stems from a misunderstanding of what transphobia is. Transphobia is not just prejudice or violence against an individual trans person, it is a belief system that presumes non-trans people to be more ‘natural’ than trans people. Only individual people can self-determine their gender.”

It took me a minute to wrap my head around it, but it makes perfect sense. Don’t celebrate the gender, celebrate the baby; celebrate the life, whatever life turns out to be for that child.


Taylor Simone Ledward Boseman, accepting a golden Globe for her late husband, Chadwick Boseman—who won as Best Actor for Ma Rainey’s Black Bottom—and spoke so beautifully:

“He would thank God. He would thank his parents. He would thank his ancestors for their guidance and their sacrifices. He would thank his incredible team, Michael Greene, Azeem Chiba, Nicki Fioravante, Evelyn O’Neill, Chris Huvane, Logan Coles. He would thank his team on set for this film: Deirdra Dixon, Siân Richards, Craig Anthony, and Andrew Carlone. He would say something beautiful, something inspiring, something that would amplify that little voice inside of all of us that tells you can, that tells you to keep going, that calls you back to what you are meant to be doing in this moment in history. He would thank Mr. George C. Wolfe, Mr. Denzel Washington, lots of people at Netflix. He would thank Ms. Viola Davis, Mr. Glynn Turman, Mr. Michael Potts, Mr. Coleman Domingo, Ms. Taylour Paige, Mr. Dusan Brown. And I don’t have his words, but we have to take all the moments to celebrate those we love. So thank you, HFPA, for this opportunity to do exactly that. And hon, you keep ’em coming. Thank you.”

Earlier in the ceremony, TikTok star La’Ron Hines had a segment asking preschoolers about the entertainment industry.  Like most kids, they knew nothing about show business: One said his favorite actor was “Captain America,” while another opined that movies were made “from bricks” but when asked who Chadwick Boseman was every single one said: Black Panther.

Everybody knows Black Panther. Everybody misses Chadwick Boseman.


John Bolton, on CNN, about CPAC  and the former president:

“If this is the epitome of support for [the twice-impeached, one-term loser], the straw poll that was taken this weekend and released just before [the twice-impeached, one-term loser], spoke, showed of all the participants 55% supported [the twice-impeached, one-term loser], being re-elected as president. That is a pathetic figure. I would have expected 90%. So if 55%, one month after leaving office at CPAC, is the best he can do, that’s a mark of how far he has fallen already.”

While, again, Bolton who sat by and allowed this stain to happen to this country and said nothing until he was fired and could write a book, can fuck all the way off.

But I do love the idea that it was barely half of the loons at CPAC who want to see the twice-impeached, one-term loser in office ever again.


Al Green, Democrat Congressman from Texas responding to Greg Steube, GQP Congressman from Florida, during the debate on the Equality Act :

“You used God to enslave my foreparents. You used God to segregate me in schools. You used God to put me in the back of the bus. Have you no shame? God created every person in this room. Are you saying that God made a mistake? This is not about God, it’s about men who choose to discriminate against other people because they have the power to do so. My record will not show that I voted against Mr. Cicilline having his rights. My record will show that when I had the opportunity to deliver liberty and justice for all, I voted for rights for all.”

Steube stood on the floor of Congress in 2021 and said transgender people are an insult to God, and then read from Deuteronomy 22:5:

"A woman must not wear men's clothing nor a man wear women's clothing, for the Lord your God detests anyone who does this."

So, he said God Hates. And that’s what we need to stop; hate.

Equality is just that and nothing more; it’s not special, it’s not more, it’s not better; it’s just equal.



the dogs' mother said...

Lots of good stuff this morning.
You two take care, xoxo :-)

Dave R said...

Bolton echoed what went through my mind when I saw that 55%. That is barely a majority.

Most gender reveal Parties I hear about are when the baby's a boy so there's a lot of patriarchy thrown in their as well.

Al Green? His honesty is earth shattering.

Debra She Who Seeks said...

Gay and lesbian rugby players are THE BEST! It's such a rough sport.

Helen Lashbrook said...

Everyone everywhere should be equal whether lesbian, gay, trans, man, woman, young old, rich or poor (and let's not forget that this is a great dividing line, wherever you live in the world, the rich have priority whether it is for the covid vaccine or for seats on a plane, whether you eat or go hungry in times of famine).

Demi Lovato is right; love your child whoever and whatever they are. Gender reveal parties are just another way to waste money and seemingly a good way to set fire to the countryside or kill yourself with a homemade firework booster.

Stubblejumpers Cafe said...

"Twice-impeached, one-term loser"
Thank you for this. It rolls off the tongue so much better than the name I'm sick of hearing and hate saying.

anne marie in philly said...

"gender reveal" parties are nothing more than a gift grab by the parents. and a STUPID WASTE OF TIME!


Deedles said...

Sir Ian McKellen always looks like he's up to something. Nuthin' common about that man.
Chadwick Boseman was such a chameleon. James Brown, Jackie Robinson and T'Challa. I loved him in the Black Jeopardy skit on SNL. That thing still makes me chuckle. So very young.

Sixpence Notthewiser said...

Love me a gay rugby player. It would make me watch the sport, TBO.
Sir Ian is a treasure. And he's speaking the truth. Gay men, specially white cis gay men quickly forget why is it that they enjoy the privileges they enjoy today. It was the Femme Queens and the Trans women who fought the good fight the ones that allowed them to enjoy their freedom to fuck today.
I agree with Demi: celebrate the baby, not the gender of the baby. And I watched TSLB's acceptance speech. It was beautiful.


Bob said...

It's nice for a change!
Y'all take care, too!

2024 doesn't look good for It.
Al Green, truth to power.
Steube is, well, steube-id.

I loved that his Twitter handle is GayRugger!

It took a minute for Demi's point to come through for me, but it makes perfect sense. As does Dave's about patriarchy.

@Stubblejumpers Cafe AKA Kate!
I stopped saying, or even printing, the twice-impeached, one-term loser's name back in 2016. And it felt good then and feels good now!
Thanks for stopping by!

It's just nonsense and, yeah, transphobic. I mean, what if there was way to reveal orientation? Would we celebrate the straight babies?

Ian McKellen is adorable.
And Chadwick Boseman was a brilliant actor and, from what I've heard, just a lovely lovely human being. Missed.

Devin could toss me around. Just sayin'.
Sir Ian speaks truth. We should all stand as one , all LGBTQIA+ of us!

Moving with Mitchell said...

Fascinating, empowering, heroic, infuriating all in one post. Thanks for sharing all this.

Bob said...

A potpourri!

uptonking said...

Great feed, as per usual.

Love Demi.

Love Ian.

Transgender individuals are being shot to death and the mainstream media says nothing. Remember... they used to hunt us queers, too.

CPAC is a joke. Bunch of clowns. Ted Cruz - Dancing Clown #1

Read Al Green's comments yesterday. More people need to start talking in these terms. It is hate that religion traffics in. Call it what it is. They are no better than the Klan.

Chadwick would have gone on to do many, many more fine films.

Bob said...

I do wish more Democrats would stand up and speak up like Green.
And you're right about Chadwick; so good, so missed.

Steve Reed said...

I like Demi Lovato's point. This fad for gender reveal parties makes no sense on so many levels. (For one thing, they're fire hazards!)

And of course McKellen is right. It seems a good rule of thumb to support anyone who is doing the best they can to be the person they are at heart. Self-realization!

Linda said...

Love it that some man, somewhere thought that he knew not only who God is but also what God loves and what God hates. And it wasn't people who enslaved other men, women and children but it was people who loved other people.

Well, that's a God I could do without.