It’s no secret that I spend a lot of time writing about The Gays on this blog; about the intolerance we, as a community, face; about the bullying of LGBTQ youth … and adults; about the hate hurled at us by so-called Christians. It almost makes The Gays seems so holier than thou, so perfect, so without sin, without bigotry, without hate.
Enter Domenico Dolce and Stefano Gabbana, the Italian design team and former long-term same-sex couple. While they are gay, they don’t believe in LGBT rights; Dolce is a practicing Catholic homosexual and does not believe in marriage equality, and Gabbana said, in 2006, that he was opposed to same-sex couples raising children. And then, this weekend, they came out again — as bigots and homophobes — with their latest attack on our community aimed at the “nontraditional” family.
"The only family is the traditional one. No chemical offsprings and rented uterus: life has a natural flow; there are things that should not be changed. The family is not a fad. In it there is a supernatural sense of belonging." — Dolce and Gabbana
Dolce continued by saying that procreation "must be an act of love," and then called children born via artificial insemination or egg donors "children of chemistry, synthetic children. Uteruses [for] rent, semen chosen from a catalog."
Here’s the queer deal: they’re obviously idiots, but they have a right to their idiotic opinion. I kinda feel sorry for two men, who once were a loving couple, who are now living their lives telling The Gays that they are less than, don’t deserve equality, and should never be allowed to parent children. It must feel horrible to be that so self-loathing to think that you don’t deserve to be married, or to have a family.
That makes me sad, but it pissed off the Queen … Elton, Elton John.
John is Tweeting and Instagramming and marching around his palaces in a huff, demanding that everyone boycott the brand. John, by the way, along with his partner David Furnish, are parents to two children born via surrogacy, so I understand his ire at Dolce and Gabbana for their recent quotes. But this is the same Elton john who pals around with Rush Limbaugh; the same John who was paid to serenade Limbaugh — who is against marriage equality — at his most recent-in-a-string of weddings.
So, I have little sympathy for Elton’s rage. Don’t take Limbaugh Bucks for a song and then demand we boycott someone else who has the exact same position, m’kay? You sound like a hypocrite.
Now, that doesn’t mean that I don’t think Dolce and Gabbana deserve a good long boycott from The Gays and The Gay Friendlies; they do. I just don’t like Elton leading the charge just because, this time, the bigotry affected him personally. I also don’t like the vitriol being hurled at the designer by the likes of openly gay producer and director — Glee, American Horror Story, The Normal Heart — Ryan Murphy, who Tweeted:
“These designers horrifying views are never in fashion. Their clothes are as ugly as their hate. #BoycottDolceGabbana”
“Their clothes are as ugly as their hate”? Let’s keep the focus on the idiocy of what these designers said, without sinking to their level.
And let’s be queer: Dolce and Gabbana have a right to their opinion, whether it’s based on their religious upbringing, or their own personal experience. Simply because they’re gay, and a former couple, doesn’t mean they need to agree with all the tenets of The Gay Agenda, but, but, they should not stand in the way of those in our community, and those in the heterosexual community, who feel that marriage equality should be everywhere, and that families look different and are created differently,, but are still families.
Let’s also make note that, since this story broke, and all kinds of celebrities — from Ricky Martin to Courtney Love to Martina Navratilova — are urging a boycott, the once happily-in-love Dolce and Gabbana are backtracking. Gabbana said in a statement Sunday that "it was never our intention to judge other people's choices. We do believe in freedom and love."
Dolce says he was expressing his view about family based on his experience growing up in a traditional Sicilian family "made up of a mother, a father and children. I am very well aware of the fact that there are other types of families and they are as legitimate as the one I've known."
Not exactly what either one of you said, you know, so it doesn’t have a ring of sincerity to it. So I think a boycott might be a good thing; hurt you in the wallet so maybe you’ll think twice before saying idiotic things. Now, that doesn’t mean I don’t think Dolce and Gabbana don’t have a right to their moronic ramblings, because I do; but howsabout couching it in terms of your own lives, your own choices; howsabout saying that, while as a gay man, or gay men, you don’t believe in marriage equality for yourselves, but good for those who do; howsabout saying that as gay men you would never have a child because it cannot be created through a one-man-one-woman martial relationship, and that’s your choice.
See, that already sounds a little less hateful.