The more things change :::blibbety blah blay bloo touch me::: the more they remain the same: I am a believer in happiness. I believe that happiness is all we really get in life, and that everything else follows.
Things don't make us happy, at least not for long. And you can't expect people to make you happy either; you either have it to begin with, and others add to it, or you don't. If you don't believe that, just look around at all the sad, angry, lonely faces you pass on the street. Happiness is something you possess, that you give out, and get back. We're responsible for our own happiness, each and all of us; responsible to find it, to hold on to it; to nurture it and share it.
Without happiness in ourselves, for being ourselves, how can we expect to live fully and completely. We suffer loss every day; I've had my share and, sad to say, I know there's more to come, but I feel happy in the memories I have of those who've gone on ahead.
And, yes, I know it's hard to be happy when times are hard … 2020 anyone? A president like no other, anyone? Sometimes, especially these days, it can be nearly impossible to think that things will get better, but they will; it might not be the better you were thinking it would be, but I have learned that it will get better.
I have learned, from my Father the Teacher, never to stop learning and reading and speaking and, well, ranting; the more you learn, the more you grow, and understand, the more happiness you can accept.
I have learned, from my Mother the Nurturer, to care for things, for people, for animals for life; to make each day better for those around us, and to make it better for ourselves in the end.
I have learned, from my Sister the Temper, to speak up; why sit quietly and let things happen to you? Stand up and demand the things you want, the happiness you want. Don't settle.
I have learned, from my Brother the Father, to hold close to family; never let them go; whether it's the family you were born into, or the family you created out of necessity; hold on to them, and protect them, and love them.
I have learned, from my Husband the Optimist, how to actually let go and be in love and damn the torpedoes; how to be open and honest and know that it won't hurt; how to love yourself, and everyone around you.
So, I once again realize that I have learned to be happy; I've earned happiness. And I am responsible for it. It is, after all, all you really get in life.
Dear Bob
ReplyDeleteYou are right; we have to work to overcome our own private griefs, although it is at times like this that loss comes to the fore. Take pleasure in what you can and looking back on 2020 I had lots of get togethers with friends in the garden and, once we were allowed to and the weather got chilly, in the conservatory.
However, I am an aging curmudgeon and I do resent idiots wasting hundreds of £ on fireworks just to show the neighbours how much money you can waste. 12 midnight is not a good time to irritate one and all, especially if you are celebrating the supreme idiocy of Brexit.
Let us hope that 2021 will better for all of us
Regards Helen
Hope you all have a great New Year, at least you will get rid of the crook in the Whitehouse over here we are still struck with bumbling Boris and his merry men.
ReplyDeleteBest Wishes
Patrick
Happy New Year Bob! Looking forward to another year with you here in Blogland. There is light on our horizon.
ReplyDeleteI need more bob & carlos and the furkids in my life! good morning to all in smallville!
ReplyDeleteHappy 2021!
ReplyDeleteIt has GOT to be better than 2020.
The best for you and Carlos (and the fur kids!)
XOXO
2021 will get even better
ReplyDeleteonce January 20th gets here!
take care, be safe, have fun!
xoxo :-)
Happy New Year to you and Carlos. I love your promises and wishes. Look forward to your daily rants.
ReplyDeleteI can wish you and Carlos a Happy 2021 while holding my breath till we get past a few potholes in the road ahead. Let's hope it's a smooth ride afterwards.
ReplyDeleteHey Hey Bob -- Happy New Year !!
ReplyDeleteMake a difference, be a difference.
Happy New Year!
ReplyDeleteI don't always leave a comment, but I always stop by to read. Thank you for a wonderful year of fun and insight, and gorgeous architecture, and Carlos' adventures, and, and, and.... Happy New Year.
ReplyDeleteYou're right about happiness Bob. It can only come from within you - nobody else can obtain it for you. And your last post about your love for Carlos was just beautiful. Happy new year to the both of you!
ReplyDeleteBob... Hope you and Carlos are having a lovely New Year Day.❤️
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely post Bob! A Happy New Year!
ReplyDeleteHappy New Years!!!
ReplyDeleteI am so glad you were part of my 2020.
ReplyDeleteI too wish you well into this new year.
May it ge good for all of us, not just a few.
@Helen
ReplyDeleteThe New year always brings the promise of tomorrows, but the memories of the days past.
@Patrick
We did dodge a bullet getting _____ out. Hopefully Boris won’t be around much longer.
@Fearsome
HNY to you and yours!
And I can see that light.
@AM
And we need you, and RTG, and your fuzzy kittehs, too.
@Six
I have faith that 2021, while it may start out in the dark, will be a good year.
xoxo
@TDM
The 20th cannot get here soon enough.
Stay safe, and enjoy the new year!
@Travel
I do enjoy a good rant, and I see more in 2021 because, you know, that’s how I roll.
@Jim
Sound advice, sir. HNY!
@Debra
Back atcha!
@uptonking
It was peace-filled and quiet.
@Agnes
Thanks. It’s always a pleasure when you stop by! Happy New Year!
@Dave
To you as well.
@Ur-spo
I, too, enjoyed finding your spot this year, and enjoyed your posts. I look forward to more.
I’m thinking this year will be good.