Thursday, June 20, 2024

Bobservations

This is less a Tale Of Carlos being funny than it is a Tale of What A Fabulous Human Being Carlos is …

The other night I came home from work in a mood; not a bad mood, but not a good mood. A bitchy mood that I couldn’t explain. And as we ate dinner I wasn’t very nice to him; I was naggy and sarcastic and just plain unfriendly to the most important person in my life for no reason whatsoever. And yet with every snide comment I made he didn’t get angry, he just answered me back.

After dinner I went back to the office by myself and did some work on the computer but I kept going back to my nasty mood. I was about to get up and go talk to him when he came into the office to ask a question, and I said:

“Let me say something first.”

“Okay.”

“You know I love you, right?”

“Of course I do.

“Well, I have been nasty since I got home and there’s no excuse—”

“You have a lot of things on your plate.”

“It’s no excuse. I shouldn’t have said what I said and acted like I did.”

“I know, and I know you didn’t mean it, and I know you’d realize it, and that I love you.”

That’s why he’s the most important person in my life; he takes that kind of mood and understands it and doesn’t get mad but lets me work through it.

That’s the Tale of Carlos I love most of all.

This Tuxedo Memory is creatively entitled ‘#TuxedoInABox,’ and is from November 2017

‘Recently we returned from a CostCo run and set one of the boxes on the living room floor.

Tuxedo loves to sleep in them, but something about this box got him all kerfuffled and he was rolling around it in like a mad man.

Huh. Does CostCo sell catnip in bulk?’

Lynn Conway has died at age 86. She is credited with developing a simpler method for designing microchips that are now used in cell phones  in the 1970s but it’s what happened a few years earlier that’s important.

In 1964, Lynn Conway joined IBM Research, where she made major innovations in computer design; recently married and with two young daughters, she lived a seemingly perfect life but she had a secret: she had been born a boy.

Having struggled with her gender identity since childhood, Conway had made a failed attempt at transition in the late 1950s but in 1967, she learned of the pioneering gender-transition work of Dr. Harry Benjamin and sought out his help, She began the life-changing, and perhaps lifesaving, transition from male to female but  when IBM’s Corporate Medical Director learned of her transition plans in 1968, he alerted CEO Thomas J. Watson, Jr., who fired Conway to avoid the public embarrassment of employing a transwoman.

Not just a transwoman, but a brilliant transwoman.

In 2020, fifty years later, IBM apologized to Lynn Conway and awarded her a lifetime achievement award for her work. Conway has had five U.S. patents, a career at Xerox, the National Science Foundation and the Defense Advanced Research Projects Agency, part of the U.S. Defense Department. She also had honorary degrees from many universities, including Princeton University. But most of all she was trans and she made it easier for y’all, even the anti-trans haters, to use their phone.

Say her name; and Thank her.

The person—and he will never be named on this blog—who murdered five people and maimed nineteen others during a mass shooting at Club Q, an LGBTQ+ bar in Colorado, has been sentenced to 55 concurrent life sentences plus an additional 190 years in prison.

Good.

This past week Romans came out for Pride dressed like Pope Frankie, wearing papal hats and T-shirts that read:

“There is never too much frociaggine.”

That’s a reference to the offensive anti-gay slur that Frankie has been accused of uttering … twice … complaining that there was too much “gayness” in the church. Martina Lorina, an Italian actress, called the phrase “the slogan of the 2024 Pride”, using a longtime tactic to turn insults into words of pride.

Homophobic bigot who says one thing about us, and behind closed doors uses slurs against us.

A lady picked up several items at a discount store. When she finally got to the checkout she learned that one of the items had no price tag or bar code so the checkout girl got on the public address system and asked:

"Price check for Tampax super-size."

Sadly, someone at the rear of the store  mistook the word 'Tampax' for 'thumbtacks' and called back over the PA system:

“Do you want the kind that you push in with your thumb or the kind that you belt in with a hammer?"

Ouch.

Four years ago Christian Cooper, an avid birdwatcher and out Black gay man, was in the Ramble in Central Park, birdwatching he noticed a dog running off-leash, violating park rules designed to protect his beloved birds, so he approached the dog’s owner, Amy Cooper, requesting that she leash her dog.

Instead, Amy, er, #CentralParkKaren, Top of Form

Bottom of Form

threatened to call the police and make a false claim that “an African-American man” was threatening her life. Christian captured the incident on video, which quickly went viral and Amy Cooper was rightly vilified in the press and also lost her job.

Then Christian Cooper’s story caught the attention of National Geographic, leading to the creation of his show, “Extraordinary Birder,” which premiered in 2023. The show has since garnered critical acclaim, culminating in Christian Cooper winning the Daytime Emmy Award this week for Outstanding Daytime Personality.

Winning.

Money raised by The Felon’s 2024 campaign is being sent right back into the con artist’s pockets in various forms, according to a The ALLEGED billionaire criminal has not donated any money to his 2024 presidential campaign, $4.6 million worth of donations has been transferred to his business empire. And MAGAts keep sending checks.

Tell me how this isn’t a cult.

Matty Carrington, a UK based model who once worked as a roofer and rugby player before walking in shows for Astrid Anderson, Givenchy, Sibling and Bobby Abley is this week’s Would You Hit It?

29 comments:

  1. Love, bananas, brilliant,

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  2. Hubs calls me "Cranky Frankie" cuz I have my moods as well. So I know what you're talking about. How he puts up with me is....heroic.

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    1. I don't usually get like that for no reason, so I was stumped, but Carlos was just letting me work through it.

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  3. aussieguy9:25 AM

    You struck it big time with Carlos! ❤️ And I’d be glad to go beaching with Matty!

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    1. I did with the Husband Lottery™ and I get Hot Prince Ginger vibes from Matty.

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  4. I love stories of ultimate vindication and success -- yay, Lynn Conway and Christian Cooper! And you have a true treasure in Carlos.

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    1. I loved those story of Conway and Cooper, too!
      Carlos is a treasure, indeed.

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  5. Yes, the best tale of Carlos. He is a gift.
    Lynn Conway. Thank you!
    Adorable Tuxedo!
    Ew, Thumpax! Or, er, Tamtacks!
    Yay Christian.
    MAGAts are truly idiots.
    I don’t know why this Maddy does nothing for me, which is not to say he isn’t a looker.

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    1. The gift that keeps on giving!
      I do like happy endings to some of these hate stories.
      I just love #TuxedoInABox
      Matty reminds me a bit of Prince Harry and i've always had a thing for Ginger Prince.

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  6. Matt is a cutie. Not for me... but cute as a bug. Ironic... that guy in Colorado killed someone with the last name of 'Loving'.

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    1. That guy in Colorado will be locked up until he drops dead, and I'm good with that!

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  7. There's someone in every relationship who gets grumpy and is bitchy for no apparent reason. That's my wife. But, like Carlos with you, I know she doesn't mean it, that **something** had gone a little haywire in her day; maybe something she wouldn't be able to pinpoint. It's OK...I "zip it" and eventually she settles.

    DeSatan will just ask Uncle Joe for the money, and Uncle joe will send it. I wish he wouldn't, but he will.

    Conway and Cooper are Heroes - to say the least. (Decided to end on a high note. LOL)

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    1. Carlos and I both have our moods, and we're usually good at dealing with each other's moods, but this one I could no explain; I don't even know where it came from.
      I like the High Note End; good news is always welcome news.

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  8. What Frankie needs to do is to stop enforced celibacy for the Catholic priesthood and https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c2995x14r85o maybe then events like this wouldn't occur;

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    1. Conversion therapy is torture, plain and simple.

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  9. Anonymous11:17 AM

    the dog's mother
    (Carlos) (Tuxedo always)
    xoxo :-)

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    1. Two winners: Carlos and My Boy.
      xoxo

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  10. Anonymous11:36 AM

    This is Victor from Denver-Carlos for the win!! He knows you. He knows it’s not personal. He just let you be and work it out. As always , Carlos is a treasure!

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  11. Let me just say, you're a very lucky man Bob. Many people never find their Carlos.
    I must find a way to bring up Lynn Conway to some of the homophobic, anti-LGBTQ family members of mine. I wonder if they'll quit using their cellphones. :p
    55 life sentences plus 190 additional years is a start.
    I remember the Cooper video - the correct person came up ahead for certain. I'll have to look for his program.
    Sigh, we can only hope the cult implodes at some point.

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    1. I consider myself very lucky to have found Carlos especially since I wasn't even looking.
      I'd love to run up to MAGAts and tell them a trans person helped create their phones!
      I love that Christian Cooper is winning, in every sense of the word.

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  12. Best Carlos story ever!
    Frociaggine sounds like something one would order at an Italian restaurant, covered in white cream sauce,
    Matty doesn't do a thing for me. My heart cockles are unaffected.
    El Gato Guapo is always a pleasure.

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    1. Carlos is a keeper, yes ma'am.
      Well, I suppose you could dip frociaggine in cream sauce???
      Tuxedo ::::sigh:::: I miss that boy.

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  13. It warms my heart to read that story about Carlos. He's a good dude and I am glad you two found each other. Thank you, Lynn Conway.

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    1. Carlos is a good dude, and I'm glad we found one another, too!
      Have a great weekend.

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  14. I am amused about frociaggine, once I looked it up.
    Treasure what you have with Carlos. It can disappear in an instant.
    But a girl has her needs, and Matty is not over muscled. I like him.

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    1. Oh I do treasure life with Carlos, every single day.

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  15. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c7220y9jx04o thought this article about Frankie might interest you

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