Bullying is fun. It’s fun to taunt
and harass people for their, real or perceived, differences. I mean, c’mon,
call out the fat kid; trip the freckled girl. Drive the gay kid to suicide. It’s
all in good fun, right? It’s all part of growing up, isn’t it? Don’t we, or
haven’t we, all, at one time or another been both the bully and the bullied and
then we’ve grown tired of it, and out of it, and moved on and grown up?
Not so much for a school
teacher in Moss Point, Mississippi. She was giving a lesson in
math class one day when she divided the class into two teams, boys and girls.
Destin Holmes, a 16-year-old lesbian, however, was made t sit in the middle of
the class alone.
You know, because she’s a
lesbian, and therefore not a girl or a boy, or, apparently worthy of respect.
"She told me since she didn't know what I was, I should be on a team of my own."—Destin Holmes
The Southern Poverty Law Center [SPLC] has gotten involved—as
should every single parent, teacher, student, school board member, and every
single person in the state—asking that this kind of bullying, from an educator,
be stopped at once.
Sadly, though, the epidemic of bullying doesn’t end. Students and staff have regularly LGBTQ youth,
says SPLC
attorney Sam Wolfe: "Students
face enough obstacles in school without also enduring violence and abuse for
simply being different. They are entitled by law to attend school in an
environment where they are not singled out and tormented because of their
sexual orientation or gender nonconformity." He warned that the district immediately develop a plan to
stop this nonsense, or face a federal lawsuit.
And that has me wondering? As an adult, as an educator, do you
really need to be threatened with a lawsuit to make you stop bullying LGBTQ
students? Is that what it takes? Is there no common sense?
Clifton Magee, Moss Point School District school board
President, said a statement would be released, and then district spokesperson
Stephanie Packer sent an email out which read: "The Moss Point School District has no comment at this
time. This is currently an ongoing investigation."
Destin Holmes, who attended the junior high for 1 semester
during the 2011-2012 school year, said she was forced to leave after being tormented
by peers and faculty members. And, when she went to the principal to voice her
complaints, he said, "I don't want a dyke in this school."
Holmes says that for the first 3 days of school, she was
repeatedly referred to as "he" by teachers even though she told them
she was a "she." She says teachers and students called her
"it," "queer," "freak," "alien," "dyke"
and "he-she," and teachers denied her access to the girls' restroom.
"They don't even know me."—Destin Holmes
We have an epidemic in this country of people, and groups,
and schools, that think the taunting and harassing and bullying, even the
physical violence, of LGBTQ students is just fine. We have an entire generation
being tormented by the generation that came before them and has yet to catch up
to the rest of the world.
And if we continue to just let this kind of thing happen, without
real repercussions to the students who bully, such as removing them from the
schools, and the teachers who bully, such as immediate termination, this will
only get worse.
Since when is this okay? While we can sometimes, sometimes, forgive a child for bullying
because maybe they don’t know any better, there is no excuse for a teacher to
behave this way.
Unfortunately I have first hand knowledge of teachers/staff playing 'mean girls' to other adults and students. Child bullies come from watching adult bullies and there are lots of adults around there to emulate.
ReplyDeleteVery sad that these events take place in an institution dedicated to learning. Where do they get these "teachers" and administrators?
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ReplyDeleteI hope destin finds a school that accepts her as she is; but in MS, that may be difficult.
I'm both sad and angry this is happening, but considering where it is I'm not shocked.
ReplyDeleteIs there anything we can do? The lawsuit might be the only option left since everything but bullying straight, bigoted people has been tried unsuccessfully.