Thursday, June 26, 2014

Five Things To Know About The Transgender Community

I will admit I don’t know a lot about transgender people; I will admit I often didn’t “get” it. But I’ve listened and I’ve learned and I’ve met some transgender folks along the way through this here blog thing; check out The Camouflaged Man, for example, for a little lesson in transgender and learn how everything from pronouns to shoes to haircuts and clothing and sexual attraction, same-sex or otherwise, become an issue.

I’ve also listened to, and watched, Chaz Bono’s journey, and the one point he made that always stuck with me is that gender is not between your legs, it’s between your ears. A certain set of genitalia does not necessarily mean that’s your gender.

And of course, we’ve all watched, and heard, the discourse on the T-word; I used to think it was okay, but now I’ve learned that many in the transgender community find it offensive so it’s scrubbed from my vocabulary. My thoughts? If the community to whom you are referring, the transgender community, the Black community, the gay community, find certain words — the T-word, the N-word, the F-word — offensive,. Then you don’t use them. Case closed, for me.

But I saw this quick little post on LGBTQ Nation, and figured maybe it might help to understand what it means to be transgendered for those of us who aren’t, those of us who are, and those of us who aren’t sure …

Here are five things to know about transgender America:
#1 WHO YOU ARE v WHOM YOU LOVE
Sexual orientation and gender identity are not the same thing. Sexual orientation refers to a person’s physical and emotional attractions to another person. Gender identity is a person’s strongly felt sense of being female, male or perhaps neither.
That’s why transgender rights advocates are pushing for nondiscrimination laws that cover both sexual orientation [gay, lesbian or bisexual] and gender identity [transgender]. Some transgender people also identify as gay, lesbian or bisexual.
#2 WATCH YOUR WORDS
Terminology is constantly evolving. Words once tossed around casually are now considered offensive. A recent campaign pushed TV show “RuPaul’s Drag Race” to stop using the words “tranny” and “she-male.” [Drag queens, such as RuPaul, are not usually considered transgender because their act is based on performance, not innate identity.]
“Sex change” has fallen out of polite use for the medical treatments that some, but not all, transgender people undergo to bring their bodies into alignment with their identities. Until recently, “sex reassignment” was the favored alternative, but it is giving way to “gender reassignment” and “gender confirmation.”
#3 MANNERS MATTER
Katie Couric was called out in January after she pressed model Carmen Carrera for details about her gender transition and “private parts.” Such questions are considered rude and intrusive.
As Washington Post etiquette columnist Steven Petrow has noted, “It wouldn’t be appropriate to ask a non-transgender person about the appearance or status of their genitalia, so it isn’t appropriate to ask a transgender person that question either.” Asking transgender people what their names were before they transitioned is similarly considered ill-mannered, as is failing to make an effort to use the pronouns they prefer.
#4 BY THE NUMBERS
Transgender people make up 0.3 percent of the U.S. adult population, according to estimates by The Williams Institute, a think tank at UCLA. In a 2011 survey by the Public Religion Research Institute, 11 percent of respondents reported having a close friend or relative who was transgender, compared with 58 percent who had a close relationship with someone who was gay or lesbian.
And transgender people, especially women, remain vulnerable to violence. Out of the 18 bias-related killings of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender people documented by the National Coalition of Anti-Violence Programs last year, 13 victims were transgender women.
#5 “T” TIME
“Orange is the New Black” co-star Laverne Cox’s made history this month with her debut as the first transgender person to appear on the cover of Time magazine. But several other people who identify as transgender have been in the limelight because of affiliations with other Time cover subjects.
During his boyhood in Indonesia, Obama’s nanny was a transgender woman who told The Associated Press two years ago that she did not dress as a woman around her young charge but that he “did see me trying on his mother’s lipstick, sometimes.”
When he was president, George W. Bush hosted a White House reunion for his former Yale classmates, including a transgender woman who had lived as a man when Bush knew her. Another guest told reporters that the president grabbed the classmate’s hand and exclaimed fondly, “Now you’ve come back as yourself.”
So, there you have it. Just a few rules, a few questions answered, but hey, if it makes the dialogue more clear, and makes the road to understanding a little easier to navigate, then it’s a good thing, right?

3 comments:

the dogs' mother said...

One of the kids we coached in academic competitive competitions as a teenage has changed gender. First person I've known personally.

Mark in DE said...

I'm confused about the "T word" that you used to find okay but now understand to possibly be offensive. What is it, so that I may not offend?

Biki Honko said...

The landscape in the transworld is experiencing a flux period of immense change. Many transsexuals refuse to consider themselves as transgender, feeling that being transsexual is an entirely different concept.

When the younger set start being active within the T community I'm hoping that attitudes shift to being a more open and accepting community, and less centered on dividing the group into "them" and "us".

Great post! And thanks for the shoutout!!!