Cody Conner, a Virginia
Beach father of three, taking on the bigotry of Virginia’s governor and the
schools boards in the state:
“You are never going to find a right way to do
the wrong thing and Governor Youngkin’s policies are wrong. Never in history
have the good guys been the segregationist group pushing to legislate identity.
Never in history have the good guys been closely connected with and supported
by hate groups like the Proud Boys. And the good guys don’t put Hitler quotes
for inspiration on the front of their newsletters.
News flash: they’re the bad guys. They’re the
bad guys supporting bad policy. And if you support the same bad policy, guess
what? You’re one of the bad guys too. When you look around and see only
the wrong people supporting what you’re doing, you’re doing the wrong thing. Now
you’ve heard some speakers come up here and say how they love these kids but
won’t accept them. I’m here to tell you that if your love makes somebody
not want to be alive, it’s not love. That’s not love.
Some of you are going to get up here and say
‘it’s the law.’ Well, I remind you that slavery and segregation used to be the
law here in Virginia.”
Conner was referring to the Youngkin’s “model policies” for
public schools that require students to use the bathroom and sports team that
matches their assigned sex; requires written instruction from parents
for a student to use names or gender pronouns that differ from the official
record, meaning that teacher can deadname students—refer to them by their prior
name—if paperwork isn’t filled out by the parents; requires the school to
inform parents if a student is questioning their identity.
Conner started speaking out at school board meetings after moving his family to Virginia Beach right before Youngkin’s policies passed. The Conner’s moved
from rural Virginia to Virginia Beach so their 13-year-old trans daughter, who came out a year ago, would be in a school system that would be supportive, but
that all changed because of Youngkin.
And Cody Conner ain’t playing.
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ReplyDeleteGood luck to the Conner family!
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Sounds like good people.
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I was a big Barry Manilow fan back in the day.
ReplyDeleteI have never been a Fanilow ... never my style.
DeleteEveryone has to be accepted for who they are and if you have Margarine come round you just have to accept that she has learning difficulties.
ReplyDeleteWe are all different, but all human at the core.
DeleteI would like Cody Conner to come speak to our provincial politicians. They've enacted similar rules here about the pronouns.
ReplyDeleteThis is going to sound like a dumb question (because it likely is), but how does one stay closeted after marrying their same sex partner?
I think Barry just didn't discuss his marriage when he and Garry married. And so he didn't feel the need to come out. He came to be in music so far back in the 70s that I think he just sort of stayed there and didn't want to rock the boat with his fans.
DeleteI've been to three Manilow concerts and they were 3 if the best I've seen. He's a great showman because he just connects with people. He doesn't need light shows and smoke and dozens of dancers. He invites local youth choirs to join him for "One Voice" and he tells how Johnny Mercer's widow gave him the honor of doing "When October Goes" and he adds some little story about the city he's in that you can't know without really caring to find out. The last time I saw him was at the end of a tour...he was obviously tired and his voice cracked a bit and, somehow, he was never better! 🥰
ReplyDeleteI think that so many other entertainers use smoke, fireworks and lots of dancers to distract from the fact they are lipsyncing the songs, or the fact that they have very little real talent
DeleteI was never a fan, but admire him for the longevity of his career. I imagine a lot of the so-called singers of today won't be as popular during their 50th year in the business!
DeleteSmoke and mirrors so you don't see the man behind the curtain who's really running the show!
DeleteCody Connor's trending big time. Bernie as the referee? And Barry?
ReplyDeleteNot only did he stay closeted, he openly anti-marriage, and his coming out earned him a best a shrug from some people, almost everybody was wondering why he waited so long. Not a fan.
I think people come out when they choose, and Barry really thought it didn't matter, so he didn't, even after he got married.
DeleteBernie is right.....the media seems to always miss the point...and sensationalize the wrong thing. That said... The top is a crooked laughing stock....and an embarrassment.
ReplyDeleteI just love Bernie making the tough guy sit back down!
DeleteI’m happy for Barry Manilow and everyone has a right to come out when they’re ready. But, given his incredible success, he could have been a powerful voice and role model along the way. So, thanks. No thanks.
ReplyDeleteYes, he could have paved the way for many others, but I think the fear of losing his audience--because, let's face it, Manilow still sings the kinds of songs he sang back in the 70s--who haven't really changed.
DeleteI'll give him a bit of a pass because even though he waited eons to say the words, we already knew.
I listened to Cody's speech at the school board meeting. Sometimes we don't want to be the center of attention BUT when it comes to one's children it takes on a whole new meaning. What a father. I needed a father like that. We all need a father like that. Bravo!!
ReplyDeleteI do understand Barry's hesitation in not coming out in the 70's. Put yourself in the proper context. In his lifetime being gay was still considered a mental health disease until 1974. Treatments to cure the gay were shock therapy, aversion therapy, estrogen therapy, religious counseling...and the list goes on. One could loose their livelihoods, family and friends. During Barry's early life one could be arrested for just sitting in a bar having a drink with a dear friend, inviting a few friends over for a dinner party.... I grew up in the 60's and 70's. It was something known about others but not openly discussed.
LGBTQ+ today have it a lot better than than their older brothers and sisters did. It's not perfect but loads better. In my life time seeing LGBTQ+ navigating through life today being who they are, out and proud brings joy to my heart. Hell, we have a gay and straight man as dancing partners on a nationally televised dancing competition. Let's not forget the first out and proud gay man in Uncle Joe's cabinet. I am verklempt. LGBTQ+ folks have to be vigilant because we have folks who gunning to take the rights that we have fought so hard to obtain.
Have a great weekend Bob!!
If we had more Cody's maybe the Barry's of the world would feel free to come out?
DeleteWe need more Cody Connors and way the fuck fewer Ron Youngkins. Barry Manilow comes across as simply pathetic. Markwayne Billybob Dingaling is a complete dimwit. The GOP? Pfft. Thank the lord it's Friday. Enjoy your weekend!
ReplyDeleteI think fear got the best of Barry and the fear is strong when you're famous and think coming out can ruin your life and career. That said, I wasn't a fan, but might have listened more to him had he come out.
DeleteEnjoy your weekend as well!
Bravo to Cody Conner! And yes, Bernie Sanders is right -- the media is too distracted by conflict and consequently ignores issues of substance. I can't believe Laura Ingraham is actually RIGHT about something!
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