Friday, November 17, 2023

I Didn't Say It ...

Cody Conner, a Virginia Beach father of three, taking on the bigotry of Virginia’s governor and the schools boards in the state:

“You are never going to find a right way to do the wrong thing and Governor Youngkin’s policies are wrong. Never in history have the good guys been the segregationist group pushing to legislate identity. Never in history have the good guys been closely connected with and supported by hate groups like the Proud Boys. And the good guys don’t put Hitler quotes for inspiration on the front of their newsletters.

News flash: they’re the bad guys. They’re the bad guys supporting bad policy. And if you support the same bad policy, guess what? You’re one of the bad guys too. When you look around and see only the wrong people supporting what you’re doing, you’re doing the wrong thing. Now you’ve heard some speakers come up here and say how they love these kids but won’t accept them. I’m here to tell you that if your love makes somebody not want to be alive, it’s not love. That’s not love.

Some of you are going to get up here and say ‘it’s the law.’ Well, I remind you that slavery and segregation used to be the law here in Virginia.”

Conner was referring to the Youngkin’s “model policies” for public schools that require students to use the bathroom and sports team that matches their assigned sex; requires written instruction from parents for a student to use names or gender pronouns that differ from the official record, meaning that teacher can deadname students—refer to them by their prior name—if paperwork isn’t filled out by the parents; requires the school to inform parents if a student is questioning their identity.

Conner started speaking out at school board meetings after moving his family to Virginia Beach right before Youngkin’s policies passed. The Conner’s moved from rural Virginia to Virginia Beach so their 13-year-old trans daughter, who came out a year ago, would be in a school system that would be supportive, but that all changed because of Youngkin.

And Cody Conner ain’t playing.

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Bernie Sanders, Democrat Senator from Vermont, after breaking up the threat of a fistfight in Congress between GOP Senator Markwayne Mullin and a Teamsters boss:

“Well, it’s pretty pathetic. We have a United States senator challenging, you know, a member of the panel who is the head of one of the larger unions in America, which has just negotiated a very good contract for their workers, the Teamsters. The point I try to make there is this country faces so many crises. And by the way, it might be nice for the media to pay attention to really what the hearing was about, is that workers all over this country are standing up and fighting back against corporate greed. Unions like the UAW, the Teamsters, others are winning good contracts.”

But Markwayne Mullin and his tiny dick tried to hijack that idea.

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Laura Ingraham, on Markwayne Mullin’s ¿Quién es más macho? Performance:

“I never thought I’d say this, but Bernie Sanders seems to be the voice of reason here. Everything you just saw was a complete and utter embarrassment. It shouldn’t be what is projected to our kids from our nation’s capital. Reminder to all of you, yeah, the children are watching. You’re supposed to be the adults in the room, so act like it. I’ve seen a lot on Capitol Hill but this has been a week for the ages. This is why there is such a declining respect for our political leaders.”

Nice of you to speak out, Laura, but it's not “our” political leaders acting foolish and stupid, it's  the GOP political leaders. Markwayne’s pissy little hissy fit came on the heels of Kevin McCarthy elbowing a colleague in the halls of Congress because that man voted to have KKKevin removed.

It’s the GOP, Laura, the GOP.

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Chip Roy, GOP Representative from Texas and Freedom Caucus member, saying the quiet part out loud:

“One thing! I want my Republican colleagues to give me one thing, ONE, that I can go campaign on and say we did. One! Anybody sitting in the complex, you wanna come down to the floor and explain to me one material, meaningful, significant thing the Republican majority has done.”

Sadly, Roy ranted in a mostly empty chamber and, to be fair, Roy tried and failed to defund Pentagon diversity efforts and to repeal a federal law against blocking abortion clinics.

So, there are two things Roy couldn’t get done.

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Barry Manilow, saying he always knew he was gay and that coming out in his 70s was a “non-event”:

“[I knew I was gay.] We all do, when we’re five years old or something. The gay thing was pretty, pretty strong. It was strong, I couldn’t deny it. I think [coming out] was really a non-event for me. Really, Garry [Kief] and I’ve been together for so long. You know, it just never dawned on me that we were gonna come out. But when we got married, it was a big deal. Garry actually kind of saved my life, because as my career exploded, as I said, it was crazy. It was just crazy, and, you know, going back to an empty hotel room, you can get into a lot of trouble if you’re alone night after night after night. [After meeting Garry] I didn’t have to go back to those empty hotel rooms. I had someone to cry with or to celebrate with. I wish that to young people—that they don’t have to go back to those hotel rooms by themselves. In the 70s … it wasn’t the same as it is today. Now being gay is no big deal. But back in the 70s, it would have killed a career.”

Manilow married his high school sweetheart Susan Deixler but divorced her after a year. He would meet Garry Kief in 1978 and they have been a couple ever since, marrying in 2014 when same-sex marriage was legalized.

Still, Barry stayed closeted until 2017 when he was 73.

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23 comments:

  1. Anonymous9:25 AM

    the dog's mother
    Good luck to the Conner family!
    xoxo :-)

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    1. Sounds like good people.
      xoxo

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  2. I was a big Barry Manilow fan back in the day.

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    1. I have never been a Fanilow ... never my style.

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  3. Everyone has to be accepted for who they are and if you have Margarine come round you just have to accept that she has learning difficulties.

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    1. We are all different, but all human at the core.

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  4. I would like Cody Conner to come speak to our provincial politicians. They've enacted similar rules here about the pronouns.
    This is going to sound like a dumb question (because it likely is), but how does one stay closeted after marrying their same sex partner?

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    1. I think Barry just didn't discuss his marriage when he and Garry married. And so he didn't feel the need to come out. He came to be in music so far back in the 70s that I think he just sort of stayed there and didn't want to rock the boat with his fans.

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  5. Cleora Borealis11:42 AM

    I've been to three Manilow concerts and they were 3 if the best I've seen. He's a great showman because he just connects with people. He doesn't need light shows and smoke and dozens of dancers. He invites local youth choirs to join him for "One Voice" and he tells how Johnny Mercer's widow gave him the honor of doing "When October Goes" and he adds some little story about the city he's in that you can't know without really caring to find out. The last time I saw him was at the end of a tour...he was obviously tired and his voice cracked a bit and, somehow, he was never better! 🥰

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    1. I think that so many other entertainers use smoke, fireworks and lots of dancers to distract from the fact they are lipsyncing the songs, or the fact that they have very little real talent

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    2. I was never a fan, but admire him for the longevity of his career. I imagine a lot of the so-called singers of today won't be as popular during their 50th year in the business!

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    3. Smoke and mirrors so you don't see the man behind the curtain who's really running the show!

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  6. Cody Connor's trending big time. Bernie as the referee? And Barry?
    Not only did he stay closeted, he openly anti-marriage, and his coming out earned him a best a shrug from some people, almost everybody was wondering why he waited so long. Not a fan.

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    1. I think people come out when they choose, and Barry really thought it didn't matter, so he didn't, even after he got married.

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  7. Bernie is right.....the media seems to always miss the point...and sensationalize the wrong thing. That said... The top is a crooked laughing stock....and an embarrassment.

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    1. I just love Bernie making the tough guy sit back down!

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  8. I’m happy for Barry Manilow and everyone has a right to come out when they’re ready. But, given his incredible success, he could have been a powerful voice and role model along the way. So, thanks. No thanks.

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    1. Yes, he could have paved the way for many others, but I think the fear of losing his audience--because, let's face it, Manilow still sings the kinds of songs he sang back in the 70s--who haven't really changed.
      I'll give him a bit of a pass because even though he waited eons to say the words, we already knew.

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  9. I listened to Cody's speech at the school board meeting. Sometimes we don't want to be the center of attention BUT when it comes to one's children it takes on a whole new meaning. What a father. I needed a father like that. We all need a father like that. Bravo!!

    I do understand Barry's hesitation in not coming out in the 70's. Put yourself in the proper context. In his lifetime being gay was still considered a mental health disease until 1974. Treatments to cure the gay were shock therapy, aversion therapy, estrogen therapy, religious counseling...and the list goes on. One could loose their livelihoods, family and friends. During Barry's early life one could be arrested for just sitting in a bar having a drink with a dear friend, inviting a few friends over for a dinner party.... I grew up in the 60's and 70's. It was something known about others but not openly discussed.

    LGBTQ+ today have it a lot better than than their older brothers and sisters did. It's not perfect but loads better. In my life time seeing LGBTQ+ navigating through life today being who they are, out and proud brings joy to my heart. Hell, we have a gay and straight man as dancing partners on a nationally televised dancing competition. Let's not forget the first out and proud gay man in Uncle Joe's cabinet. I am verklempt. LGBTQ+ folks have to be vigilant because we have folks who gunning to take the rights that we have fought so hard to obtain.

    Have a great weekend Bob!!






















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    1. If we had more Cody's maybe the Barry's of the world would feel free to come out?

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  10. aussieguy5:43 PM

    We need more Cody Connors and way the fuck fewer Ron Youngkins. Barry Manilow comes across as simply pathetic. Markwayne Billybob Dingaling is a complete dimwit. The GOP? Pfft. Thank the lord it's Friday. Enjoy your weekend!

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    1. I think fear got the best of Barry and the fear is strong when you're famous and think coming out can ruin your life and career. That said, I wasn't a fan, but might have listened more to him had he come out.
      Enjoy your weekend as well!

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  11. Bravo to Cody Conner! And yes, Bernie Sanders is right -- the media is too distracted by conflict and consequently ignores issues of substance. I can't believe Laura Ingraham is actually RIGHT about something!

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