Monday, February 22, 2010

Stepping Forward


The House Civil Justice Committee will be the first in Minnesota’s history to conduct a hearing on the possibility of legalizing same-sex marriage in the state. Not one, not two, but three bills will be up for discussion today, and all three support an expansion of relationship rights for same-sex couples in Minnesota.
The three bills are:
  1. The Marriage and Family Protection Act would make marriages in Minnesota gender neutral
  2. A Civil Unions bill is also being proposed
  3. A Bill to would recognize same-sex marriage performed in states where it is legal, such as neighboring Iowa.
OutFront Minnesota, the state's largest LGBT equality group, said on its website that the “hearing[s] will be historic because it is the first time a committee in our state Legislature will be looking at what enacting marriage equality means for Minnesota.”
Of course, as happens in all sates where equality becomes an issue, there are opponents to the bills. Citizen activist Doug Benson who secured legislative support for the Marriage and Family Protection Act said called it a “show hearing” because there will be no vote taken on the bills so they won’t advance out of committee.
But Doug, you wingnut, it's a positive sign and a positive step.
Build a bridge, and get over it.

Saturday, February 20, 2010

I Ain't One To Gossip, But..................

I don't get Charlie Sheen.
I don't see talented actor or TV comedy star. I see alcoholic, drug addicted, serial groom, with a penchant for spousal battery. I don't see why a woman, any woman, would want to hook her wagon, as it were, to his star.
Except for the fact that, as the :::cough cough::: star of that :::cough cough::: hit show, Two And A Half Men, Sheen makes $20 million a year.
So, please to explain, what the frig is wrong with people that they want to marry this loser, let him beat them, and then go back to him? Please to explain, why a TV network, and I'm lookin' at you CBS, would spend $20 million a year on this asshat?
Hey CBS! I can do his job for a tenth of what you pay him and you wouldn't have to worry about me getting arrested or going to rehab or divorces or battery charges or being addicted to porn...okay, let me have that last one, because I promise it won't keep me from showing up to work.

This is scary, but I kind of like Victoria Beckham. Now, to be fair, I'd really only want to be her friend to get close to her husband :::::yum::::: but she is quite funny. And, yes, almost human.
I saw her on The View this week and she seemed far less alien than she looks. She was quite funny, at times, though, I must say, to hear her talk about how the CFDA [Council of Fashion Designers of America] was working to keep underage models and Number 2 pencil thin models off the runway, was a hoot.
I mean, Posh Spice, who allegedly had ribs removed so she could be a size -4, who hasn't eaten solid food since 1995, talking about too thin models? Joy Behar laughed so hard she blew Posh off the couch.
Posh Spice talking about ridding the runways of the world of too thin models is like me talking about reducing the bitchy catty attitude of gay men.
What?

Justin Timberlake is gay.
Yup, big old queen. Okay, he might not be gay [openly] but he is a big old prissy boy.
And a bitchy one at that.
But he needs his space and he longs for his privacy. How Garbo of him.
He was having a show from his design collection ::::i know....funny.....right::::: the William Rast collection, last week, and he made certain that all staff members at the venue signed a Don't-Look-At-Me-Talk-To-Me-Breathe-On-Me-Or-Speak-My-Name gag order. He also made certain that much of the venue was closed to every one but, well, him.
Queeeeeeeeen.
Everyone else, from stylists, models, assistants, coordinators and anyone who worked on the show was crammed into a corner so Justin could roam freely, and alone.
Bitch please. It's not like you're Jennifer Lopez.

Vanity Fair always does a New Hollywood issue, featuring all the new talent out there, just aching for a trip on the Casting Couch. Trouble is, as usual, their New Hollywood, is skinny, pasty, and white.
Not good news for Gabourey Sidibe, star of Precious: Based on the Novel Push by Sapphire. She wasn't asked to be anywhere near Vanity Fair as they readied their New Hollywood version. Seriously, one of the most break-out performances of the year, and she isn't asked to join the shoot.
I bet she's pissed.
Um, no, because Gabby takes the high road. Asked if she was upset at being excluded, Gabby said: “At first I thought, ‘Hmm, should I be there? Then I very quickly got over it. I think if I were a part of that shoot I would have felt a little left out anyway. I would have felt a little like… whether or not I should have been there. [It] doesn’t matter, because I wasn’t on it and I’m excited to be mentioned anywhere, and it doesn’t matter to me where I’m not mentioned.”
Gabby don't need no stinking Vanity Fair.

This has to be a joke.
It seems that producers of American Idol have lost their marbles. Word comes from somewhere, perhaps inside my head, that Paula Deen, of the FOOD Network, will come on the show as a guest judge this season.
Supposedly, the deal has been in the works for "weeks."

In related news, Randy Jackson will have his own Food Network Show called Dawg Bonz.

Pot.Kettle.Black.
Lisa Rinna, of big ginormous fake, pumped full of goddess knows what, lips fame, is flapping those enormous lips about Heidi "Media Whore" Montag.
She apparently tore the cover off of People magazine the week Heidi was featured because she didn't think it was appropriate for her own young girls to read about Heidi's Surgical Misadventure's.
See, in the Rinna house, you can't look at pictures of women who've gone off the plastic surgery deep end, unless it's a picture of mommy and her inflatable lips and breasts and frozen forehead.

Speaking of plastic surgery, Jane Fonda has gone the nip/tuck route. Again. At 72-years-old, Fonda, looking gorgeous, decided she needed some touch ups done in time for the DVD release of her new exercise video.
But, unlike Heidi and Rinna, Fonda cops to the knife talk, and jokes about it:
"I just had some work done on my chin and neck and had the bags taken away from under my eyes so I decided it would be a good idea to get a new haircut so people will think it's my new hair."
Fool 'em with a new 'do, Jane.

Brazilliant!

I loves me some Judge Judy.
I admit it. I'm an addict, and I will not be joining any 12-step program to cure myself of Judy.
And, obviously, I'm not the only one.
Judy's show has been on the number one spot against any other syndicated half hour court show for 700 consecutive weeks! Thirteen freakin' years!
So, Judge Alex, and Judge Mathis and Judge Fill In The Blank, keep plugging along, because you'll never catch her.

In fact, she's even out-Oprah's Oprah a few times.
Makes me love her even more.

Peta has a Hit List, and Catherine Zeta-Jones is right up there, at the top!
The animal activist group has named Zeta-Jones their Worst Dressed Celeb of the year for her extensive wardrobe of animal skins and fur:
"With her creepy cow-skin pants, ugly fox coat, and icky alligator bag, Catherine Zeta-Jones looks like she’s working her way through Noah’s ark with a knife. Maybe she’s trying to get into character for an upcoming role as a serial killer--or a taxidermist."
Michael Douglas should be careful. apparently Catherine is fond of leathery looking handbags and he has just the face for it.

Friday, February 19, 2010

An Open Letter To Tiger Woods


Hey Tiger,

It's me. Bob. The gay one in South Carolina. I kid. The gay one!!?!!!
I just wanted to say that, while I didn't see your press conference today, I do, as usual have some thoughts.
First up. You don't owe me an apology for your infidelities. I am not a part of your marriage, or even your family, so what you do with people who aren't your wife behind closed doors, shouldn't, and doesn't, affect me.
You also don't owe an apology to the PGA. Again, they are not married to you, although I know you've been with them a long time, your relationship is professional, not personal.
And you most assuredly don't owe the media an apology. The media does, however, owe you a huge debt of gratitude. For, without your foibles and missteps and marital issues, there would be no stories left to cover. I mean, what's a war or two around the world when we have a golfer cheating on his wife? What's all this talk about the economy and foreclosures and job losses when there are hookers and mistresses to interview? DADT? Don't ask, don't tell me about Tiger Woods. I'm done.
See, I think it's the media that owes us, and you, an apology. For turning your personal mistakes into a prime-time special. They owe me an apology because, ever since 9/11 when I hear the words, "We interrupt this program to bring you a special report" I think of planes hitting buildings, not athletes saying I'm sorry.
So, I'm sorry, Tiger. I'm sorry the world has come to this. I'm sorry people feel that because you're an amazing golfer, and a seemingly good guy, that we then are free to jump up and down gleefully when you trip and fall. I'm sorry your privacy was invaded. I'm sorry your dirty laundry became the biggest story of the year when there are people dying, people starving, people being denied equality.
I'm sorry anybody stepped foot in your marriage who didn't belong there.

Sincerely,
Bob
The Gay One In South Carolina

PR7EP6: Mother And Child Runway

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Quiet Please, There's A Lady Onstage!

You go, Adam!

A Soldier Speaks


"I am a 23 year old straight man. I have enlisted in the U.S. Air Force and this May I will begin my four years of active duty service. When I enlisted, I was extremely proud to stand at attention in front of a flag and a commissioned officer and swear an oath to defend the nation. But before I did that, I was forced to sign some paperwork saying essentially "We won't ask you if you're a homosexual, but if we find out that you are or if you engage in homosexual activity, we'll kick you out because that stuff is gross." It was one of the more disgusting, degrading, ignorant, backwards, and insulting statements I've ever had to sign my name to, and I'm not even gay!

Now I realize that I'm probably preaching to the choir on this issue, but you guys are supposed to be the biggest and most powerful groups supporting the rights of gays and lesbians, and it seems to me that you haven't done much to really try to change it. I know that Congress will have to pass DADT repeal since that has been codified into law, and I know that Congressional Democrats in both houses will not move on the issue unless they know that the president wants them to move aggressively. And I know that the president doesn't want to upset the Pentagon, which is admirable, but I also know that every single person in the Pentagon has "President of the United States - The Honorable Barack Obama" at the very tip-top of their chain of command. So it seems to me that President Obama is the most important in the entire nation when it comes to setting policy for the military, and that includes the repeal or continuation of DADT. And unless he receives pressure from advocacy groups, he ain't gonna stick his neck out for you guys.

As I said, I'm not gay. If my sexual orientation gets outed, I am in absolutely no danger of a discharge. I can continue to serve, whether or not everyone knows what gender gets my rocks off. I have that luxury. Gays and lesbians don't, and that is an embarrassment. There is a clear path to fixing that. We have the Commander in Chief we need. We have the Congress we need. We have the military leaders we need. We have the public opinion we need. The wind is at our backs, and the time is now. It is time for you to stand up and demand action from the president who owes his presidency to groups like yours. It's a singular moment where all the factors are aligned, and your leadership is acutely missed."

Posted by DM at AmericaBlog HERE

The Catholic Church Continues It's War On Children

Well, well, well, if it isn't the Catholic Church.
See, while we have several faiths out in Iowa standing up for marriage equality, in Washington DC, we have the Catholics punishing the innocent because of same-sex marriage.
The Catholic Archdiocese of Washington is going to end its 80-year-old foster-care program rather than license same-sex couples; see, for the Catholics, it isn't about doing good deeds, it's about punishment for alleged sins.....unless you're a Catholic priest. Then you get shuttled around so you can molest children all over the world.
Catholic Charities runs over 20 social service programs for DC, but opted to transfer its entire foster-care program--43 children, 35 families and seven staff members--to the National Center for Children and Families, rather than acknowledge same-sex couples. Tommy Wells, the DC Council member who chairs the Committee on Human Services, said he didn't know of any problems with the transfer, which happened at the beginning of February.
Catholic Charities, which receives $20 million from the city, had threatened, in the days preceding the marriage equality vote, to discontinue programs serving tens of thousands of people if the law was passed. Being forced to recognize same-sex marriage, church officials said, could make it impossible for the church to be a city contractor because Catholic teaching opposes same-sex marriage.
But does it make it impossible for you to do good deeds?
In Iowa, churches are standing up to fight for equality; in Washington DC, the Catholic Church is punishing children because of it.

And Now A Word From People Who Understand God's Word


Out in Iowa, some 167 faith leaders are voicing their support for marriage equality, and went even further this past Tuesday by calling out same-sex marriage opponents who use the Bible to promote discrimination.

The Interfaith Alliance of Iowa held a news conference at the Statehouse to announce that more than 160 representatives from a cross-section of diverse faiths had penned letters to all 150 Iowa legislators outlining their position, which is: "As many faith traditions affirm, where there is love, the sacred is in our midst. This belief is the same for couples comprised of a man and a woman, two women or two men."

It's like I been tellin' y'all, God is Love.

The Reverend Matt Mardis-LeCroy, who is chairman of the Interfaith Alliance of Iowa, said: "Let me be perfectly clear....I do not support marriage equality in spite of my Christian faith. I support marriage equality because of my Christian faith. As you can see I am not alone."


"We all have the ability and responsibility to express love," said Rabbi Steven Edelman-Blank. "Therefore we all deserve the right to publicly celebrate our love through civil marriage, regardless of sexual orientation."

Of course, the wingnuts were out, too. Bryan English, spokesman for the Iowa Family Policy Center, a leading proponent of discrimination, said, "We obviously come from a uniquely Christian perspective. We're not trying to represent the faith traditions of others. We can't find Biblical justification for the position the Interfaith Alliance has taken today."

Pay attention, Teresa! I said it before. God.Is.Love.

And she's in Iowa right now. Watching.

Thursday, February 18, 2010

Catnap


Thursday Chuckle

I loves me some Rachel!

They Said No....Twice


Earlier this week the New Hampshire House rejected a bill that sought to repeal the state's new gay marriage law. The vote, 210-109, on House Bill 1590 came right on the heels of the House's rejection of a proposed constitutional amendment, CACR 28, that said marriage could only be between a man and a woman.

Opponents of House Bill 1590 said it would be wrong to backtrack and to deny gays and lesbians the equal rights they fought for the state to recognize. Representative Robert Thompson, who married his partner in January, asked the House, "How has my marriage impacted upon your marriage or how has it diminished the value of your marriage?"

Still, there are those who don't understand how discriminatory the anti-marriage equality movement is; one such person, Representative John Cebrowski, said no gay partnership can be considered a true marriage, calling the notion "a cruel joke." He went on to utter, "The vast majority of adults out there know marriage is between man and woman. To engage in this flight of imagination ... with adults is downright cruel."
What's cruel, sir, is to deny equal rights to all of your citizens.

Virginia Takes Two Steps Back.......To The 60's


Republican asshat, and wingnut Virginia Governor, Robert McDonnell has signed an executive order barring discrimination in the state workforce on grounds that include race, sex, religion and age.

Not, however, on sexual orientation.

Nothing new for this homophobe, though; he has a long-standing position on the issue of legal protections based on sexual orientation. McDonnell even criticized his two Democratic predecessors for including language about it in their similar executive orders, arguing they overstepped their executive authority by extending protections to gay employees.

McDonnell's goosetsepping spokeswoman Stacey Johnson said in a statement that the administration has been reviewing all previous executive orders since taking office, and that McDonnell opposes discrimination; she released a policy memo he recently sent to staff members and Cabinet secretaries indicating that his office would not discriminate "for any reason."

Unless you're gay.

But then, that's not really discrimination, is it?

Another Case Of This Is Not America


Show of hands please of anyone who is a Native Born American and not the offspring or descendant of immigrants?

Anyone? Bueller? Anyone?

So, most of us, unless we're Native Americans, can trace our roots back to being immigrants to America. That's kind of cool; all of our ancestors coming here, hoping for a new life, and a better life, and making America what it is today. Home to all kinds of people of differing ethnicity's and cultures and religions and sizes and shapes and colors.

Why then, is discrimination against immigrants so high?

Case in point: Up in Charlotte, North Carolina, a former school secretary is suing the Charlotte-Mecklenburg School District, because she was fired from Devonshire Elementary under a new rule imposed by a new principal that banned her from speaking Spanish to parents who can't speak English.

Ana Ligia Mateo was hired as a bilingual secretary for the school in 2006, but in 2008, when Suzanne Gimenez [not Hispanic but married to an Hispanic man] took over as principal, she announced that she would no longer allow Spanish to be spoken to parents by any of the faculty or staff.


This, in a school where 42 percent of the 500 students are Hispanic. This, in a district that has a large international population; this, in a district where almost 16 percent of students are Latino. This, in a school, whose own website says the school theme is "Academy of Cultural and Academic Diversity."

Hmmmm, not so much.

Ana Ligia Mateo has filed a lawsuit. She says the "no speaking Spanish" order came early in the 2008 school year, and that Gimenez and other staff reminded her to speak English only on several occasions.

In September 2008, a Spanish-speaking parent came to the school crying and stating in Spanish that someone at the school had placed a stick in her seven-year-old son's buttocks. Mateo asked Ms. Gimenez if she could translate for the parent, but Gimenez refused, telling the parent that her seven-year-old son--the victim of the alleged abuse--could translate. The parent continued to cry and eventually left without having her issue resolved because she could not understand Gimenez's responses.

Now, there is no denying that Mateo broke the rules by continuing to use Spanish with parents who couldn't understand English; there is no denying that she was warned to stop the practice. And, in September 2008 she was forced out of her job. Mateo complained to the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission, which ruled last June that there is "reasonable cause" to believe her civil rights were violated.

Neither Charlotte-Mecklenberg School [CMS] officials nor Gimenez will comment on the pending lawsuit, spokeswoman LaTarzja Henry said; and she wouldn't say whether any other schools ban employees from speaking Spanish or translating for parents.


What is this country coming to? I lived in Miami for years and felt like I was the outsider because I wasn't proficient in Spanish, so I know it'd be easier if everyone spoke English. But what do we do with those people that come here legally, or illegally, who can't understand the language? Do we make rules that we cannot speak to them in their native tongue? Do we punish people for trying to help.

Think of where we'd be, as a country, today, if our ancestors had chosen to treat anyone who didn't speak a certain language as "less than." What kind of country would this be, and how many of us, of Hispanic, or Middle Eastern, or German, or French, or Native American, descent, would go unheard.

Show of hands, please, of anyone who'd like to live in a country where differences aren't celebrated but punished?

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Mom


Here it is, another of those "anniversaries" that you don't celebrate, and yet don't ever forget.

My Mom died of cancer three years ago today, and, while, as I've always said, it never gets easier, it does somehow get better.

As a child, we believe all sorts of things. We believe bunny rabbits sneak into our houses and leave money under our pillows in an exchange for an old tooth; we believe reindeer fly and an old guy in a red suit can come down your chimney--even if you don't have a chimney--bearing gifts.

And we believe our parents will live forever.

But as we grow, we learn the truth about bunnies with coins, and Santa Claus. We realize that many of our childhood wishes and dreams are just that, wishes and dreams, but, somehow, we still believe our parents will live forever.

And they don't.

I sit in my kitchen and I can picture my Mom across the kitchen table from me even though she never saw this house. If I hear a funny joke I hear her laughter. When I'm making dinner for Carlos and me, and I make enough to feed a family of ten, I think of my Mom and how she always made extra for leftovers.

Leftovers.

Leftover memories, but no new ones. And that's the scary part. I'll have no new memories of my Mom. So, today, especially, I'll remember the good memories of my Mom.

I'll remember how she ended every phone call with Bye bye sweetie, I love you.

I'll remember her smile. and her laugh. And how she'd say, in mock surprise, Bobby! every time I said or did something crazy.,

I'll remember the time she died her hair platinum blond and I thought she was the most beautiful woman on earth.

And I'll remember her with no hair, undergoing cancer treatment and still thinking she was the most beautiful woman on earth.

I'll remember being in school on a cold rainy day and knowing that Mom would be home making Clam Chowder. The best chowder ever.

I'll remember my Mom pushing a snowblower around the deck at their house in Blue Canyon.

I'll remember coffee and crossword puzzles. Housecoats.

I'll remember our Day After Awards Show phone calls when we'd compare notes over who won, who wore what, and who we liked and didn't like.

I'll remember how she loved to paint, and how we have some of her work in our house now, and how proud I feel when people say they like it.

I'll remember how she welcomed Carlos into the family like he'd been there all along.

I'll remember how much she loved my Dad, and her kids, and her friends, and her dogs.

I'll remember Thanksgiving, with Mom doing all the cooking, and how much she loved doing that for her family and friends.

I'll remember being there on that day, three years ago, when she left us, and feeling grateful to have had her for as I long as I did, and feeling loved, and feeling happy that she was peaceful again.

I'll just remember.

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Leonard Pitts Column

I love a Leonard Pitts POV; especially this one from the Miami Herald:

Dear Sarah: Say it is so, run for president
By Leonard Pitts

Dear Sarah Palin:
I hear you're pondering a run for the White House in 2012. Last week, you told Fox news it would be 'absurd' to rule it out.

I'm writing to ask that you rule it in. I very badly want you to run for--and win--the Republican nomination for the presidency.

I know you're waiting for the punch line. Maybe you figure I think you'd be a weak candidate who would pave the way for President Obama's easy re-election.

That's not it. No, I want you to run because I believe a Palin candidacy would force upon this country a desperately needed moment of truth. It would require us to finally decide what kind of America we want to be.

Mrs. Palin, you are an avatar of the shameless hypocrisy and cognitive disconnection that have driven our politics for the last decade, a process of stupidification creeping like kudzu over our national life.

As Exhibit A, consider your recent speech at a so-called ``tea party'' event, wherein you dismissed the president as a ``charismatic guy with a teleprompter.'' Bad enough you imply that teleprompter use is the mark of an insubstantial man, even though you and every other major politician uses them. But what made the comment truly jaw-dropping is that even as you spoke, you had penned on your left palm, clearly visible, a series of crib notes.

Mrs. Palin, if Obama is an idiot for reading a prepared speech off a teleprompter, what are you for reading notes you've inked on your hand like a school kid who failed to study for the big test?

In the Fox interview, you scored Obama for supposedly expecting Americans to 'sit down and shut up' and accept his policies. But when asked when the president has ever said that, you couldn't answer. Obama, you sputtered, has just been condescending with his 'general persona.'

I found that a telling moment. See, ultimately what you represent is not conservatism. Heck, I suspect that somewhere, Barry Goldwater and Ronald Reagan are spinning like helicopter rotors at the very idea.

No, you represent the latest iteration of an anti-intellectualism that periodically rises in the American character. There is, historically and persistently, a belief in us that y'all just can't trust nobody who acts too smart or talks too good--in other words, somebody whose 'general persona' indicates they may have once cracked a book or had a thought. Americans tend to believe common sense the exclusive province of humble folks without sheepskins on the wall or big words in their vocabularies.

I don't mock those people. They are my parents, my family elders, members of my childhood church. I honor their native good sense, what mom called 'mother wit.' But if it is insulting to condescend to them, it is equally insulting to mythologize them.

More to the point, something is wrong when we celebrate mental mediocrity like yours under the misapprehension that competence or, God forbid, intelligence, makes a person one of those 'elites'--that's a curse word now--lacking authenticity, compassion and common sense.

So no, this is not a clash of ideologies, but a clash between intelligence and its opposite. And I am tired of being asked to pretend stupid is a virtue. That's why I'd welcome the moment of truth your campaign would bring. It would force us to decide once and for all whether we are permanently committed to the path of ignorance, of birthers, truthers and tea party incoherence you represent, or whether we will at last turn back from the cliff toward which we race.

If the latter, wonderful, God bless America. If the former, well, some of us can finally quit hoping the nation will return to its senses and plan accordingly. Either way, we need to know, and your candidacy would tell us. If you love this country, Mrs. Palin, you can do it no greater service.

Run, Sarah, run.

This Is Why I Support Candidates And NOT The DNC

Once again, from Iowa, we have news on the marriage equality battle.

Now, it seems that four Democratic state senators--Dennis Black, Keith Kreiman, Rich Olive and Joe Seng--have broken with their party and joined with another Democrat, Tom Hannock, to sign a Republican petition to force a vote on same-sex marriage. 

The good news is that last week was the deadline for bills to clear committee in order to stay eligible for consideration this year, so the ban on marriage equality is officially dead.

Also last week, the Republicans attempted to use a procedural move, called a discharge petition, to pull Senate Joint Resolution 2001 out of committee and put it before the full Senate for debate and a vote. Senate Joint Resolution 2001 would begin the process of amending the Iowa constitution to ban same-sex marriage. Naturally, all Senate Republicans, and Tom Hannock, signed the petition. A similar attempt was made in the House, but it also failed to find enough votes to bring a gay marriage ban up for a vote.

With the addition of party turncoats, Black, Kreiman, Olive and Seng, it brings the total to 23 votes, just three shy of the majority needed to force a vote on a constitutional ban on gay marriage; twenty-eight Democratic Senators refused to sign on.

Senate Majority Leader, Democrat Mike Gronstal, has repeatedly vowed to block any effort to bring a ban on same-sex marriage up for discussion, telling The Iowa Independent before the legislative session began that he would “block that at every opportunity. There will be no vote on the constitutional amendment.”

Gronstal deserves our dollars and our support, for, as an elected official, he is not only doing the right thing to guarantee that all citizens of Iowa are equal under the law, but he is listening to the people of Iowa. A recently conducted Des Moines Register Poll found 62 percent of Iowans felt lawmakers have more important things to worry about than same-sex marriage.

So, to the Republicans of Iowa: listen to your people, the ones who elected you to office, and the ones who cane remove you from same. And to those five Democrats who now side with discrimination, be ready to fight to keep your seats.

Tell the turncoats how you feel:

Dennis Dlack
Senate Switchboard: 515-281-3371 Mailing address:
State Senator Dennis Black
Iowa Statehouse
Des Moines, IA 50319 E-mail:Dennis.Black@legis.state.ia.us Phone: 515-975-8608 Mailing address:
State Senator Dennis Black
Box 1271
Newton, IA 50208 E-mail:dblack@black4senate.com
Keith Kreiman
Home Address:
406 Parkview Dr.,
Bloomfield, IA, 52537
Home Telephone: 641-664-2811
Rich Olive
Home Address:
PO Box 273,
Story City, IA, 50248
Home Telephone: 515-733-2427
Joe Seng
Senate Switchboard: 515-281-3371 Mailing address:
State Senator Joe Seng
Iowa Statehouse
Des Moines, IA 50319 E-mail:Joe.Seng@legis.state.ia.us Phone: (563) 391-1627 Mailing address:
State Senator Joe Seng
4804 NW Blvd
Davenport, IA 52806 E-mail:josephmseng@gmail.com
And while you're at it, tell Mike Gronstal you appreciate the work he's doing for the LGBT community and equality in Iowa.
Mike Gronstal
Home Address:
220 Bennett Ave,
Council Bluffs, IA, 51503
Home Telephone: 712-328-2808 Business Telephone: 515-281-4610
Business Fax: 515-281-3361

Careful What You Think


Ah, only in America can things like this happen.

Out in Iowa, Christine Taylor was pregnant, already the mother of two, and splitting up with her husband. As is her right, she considered the options available to her as a soon-to-be single mother; she thought about abortion, but decided against it; she thought about giving up the baby for adoption, but changed her mind. She decided that, going through a divorce, having a child, being unemployed, would be the right path for her.

As is her right.

Then one day everything went crazy. See, Christine Taylor had just gotten off the phone from a very argumentative conversation with her estranged husband. She became dizzy then fell down a flight of stairs in her home. She called 911, and paramedics arrived quickly enough and declared her healthy. But, since she was pregnant with her third child, Christine Taylor thought she should see a doctor, and they took her to the local emergency room.

It was there that the world, at least Christine Taylor's world, went nuts.

Worried, and alone, Christine Taylor confided in the nurse treating her about her situation; she told the woman that she hadn't always been sure she'd wanted to keep this baby, now that she was out of work and soon-to-be divorced; she mentioned that she had considered adoption and abortion. She was just venting to someone she thought might have a compassionate ear.

Not so; that nurse summoned a doctor, who questioned Christine further about her thoughts on ending the pregnancy, and the next thing Christine Taylor knew, she was being arrested for attempted feticide, which, according to Iowa state law, is trying "to intentionally terminate a human pregnancy, with the knowledge and voluntary consent of the pregnant person, after the end of the second trimester of the pregnancy." Apparently the nurse and doctor thought she had thrown herself down the stairs on purpose.

Christine Taylor spent two days in jail before being released. Yes, a pregnant woman was jailed because she'd thought about abortion, and then fell down some stairs a couple of months later.

After a nearly month-long investigation, the District Attorney declined to prosecute Christine Taylor. Now, the DA didn't come to his decision because it seemed moronic to prosecute a women for thinking; no, the decision was made because it came to light that Taylor was late in her second trimester when she fell, not early in her third as the nurse and doctor had thought.

See, it's okay in Iowa to fall down a flight of stairs in the first two-thirds of your pregnancy, but after the last third begins, well, it's the slammer for you. But, what for me, feels even more disgusting, is that this woman thought she was speaking confidentially and compassionately with the staff at her local hospital. How does a doctor-patient conversation get handed over to the police department?

Thought police?

I Don't Want a Civil Union-ersary


With what might be seen as a huge win for the LGBT community getting closer every day, by ending DADT, people are still quite divided over whether or not to allow gay men and lesbians the right to marry. There are those who believe that ending DADT will lead right into marriage equality, which is why they favor keeping the discriminatory practice in place.

But others, some two-thirds of all Americans depending on where you live, now believe gay and lesbian couples should be able to have the same rights as heterosexual couples through civil unions.

Nothing infuriates me more. first off, the use of the word allow annoys me. Who are you to allow me equality; it should be a given. And then, the whole notion of civil unions pisses me off, too. It's not the same thing no matter who tells you it is; it doesn't allow the same rights, benefits and privileges as marriage [for proof of that see HERE] it just a little better than we have now.

And I, for one, don't believe that if we are to be allowed civil unions it would lead to marriage equality; we would simply be told that we should be happy with the status quo, the almost-but-not-quite marriage.

Civil unions, while not the back of the bus, are not the front of the bus either. Civil unions are standing in the aisle, getting tired of being denied the same things many straight Americans take for granted every day.

Civil unions are less than.
Civil unions are separate but equal.
Civil unions are a placebo which won't cure what ails us: lack of equality.