The Lovely Jenny Needs To Accept Her Share Of The Blame

Just when you think the, ahem, fairytale marriage of Mark and Jenny Sanford couldn't become more of a joke, well, then, Jenny talks some more. See, it seems that when the lovely Jenny married Mark The Hiker, he insisted, insisted, that they leave out the part about marital fidelity in their vows.

And she said, "Duh, okay."

So, how then is she now playing the victim, the wounded party to her adulterer husband? Didn't he make it quite clear on that day some twenty years ago that he was not going to be faithful? And yet she went through with the ceremony, and stayed with him, and then only decided to leave him once his steamy, sultry emails to his Argentinean Booty Call were made public.

But, again, I have to wonder, he told you on your wedding day that he wasn't going to be faithful? So, why say "I do" when Marky clearly was more of a "I don't"? Was it the chance to be Missus Political Wife, and all the power and prestige that might entail? Did you envision yourself at a White House function as the First Lady so often that you sold out for an adulterer?

Those are questions I'd like to hear the lovely Jenny answer. And she might [though, call me a cynic, but I doubt it] when she is interviewed by Barbara Walter's on 20/20 tonight--the same day as her book, Staying True, billed as an "inspirational memoir", is released. Jenny will discuss their courtship, their marriage, his affair, and how she felt about Mark Sanford's reluctance to pledge fidelity was probably a case of cold feet.

Uh, not cold feet, but more along the lines of I'd like to try out some other feet other than just yours, lovely Jenny.

Jenny Sanford; "It bothered me to some extent, but . . . we were very young; we were in love....I questioned it, but I got past it . . . along with other doubts that I had."

So, Jenny, you left your cheating husband because you felt he was not a good husband or partner, and wanted to teach your boys about love and respect and marriage. And yet, what you've taught your sons is that it's okay to settle; it's fine to enter into a marriage when you are doubting the marriage before it even begins, and your husband to be tells you he will not ever be faithful.

You say your son's world has been tuned upside down by what their father has done, and then you admit to giving him carte blanche to cheat? "It is something that is now a part of their lives. ... They're not happy. They're not proud. ... It just ripped me up, to see them reading these e-mails, and to see them have to grow up so fast."

It's hard to fathom who's done the most harm to your children. Both you, lovely Jenny, and Mark, are a pathetic example of heterosexual marriage, the sanctity of marriage, and of parenting.

And you can write all you want about blame, but a great deal of it lands at your feet for signing off on such a "marriage".