Friday, August 26, 2011

Born That Way

I saw this on Joe My God...or I saw the link to it.....and followed it, and wanted to share it. The story first appeared HERE.
This is how to parent.
This is what it';s like to be born gay.
This is priceless.

“Mommy, they are just like me.” 
My oldest son is six years old and in love for the first time.  He is in love with Blaine from Glee. 
For those who don’t know Blaine is a boy…a gay boy, the boyfriend of one of the main characters, Kurt.
This isn’t a ‘he thinks Blaine is really cool’ kind of love.  It is a mooning at a picture of Blaine’s face for a half hour followed by a wistful “He’s so pretty” kind of love.
He loves the episode where two boys kiss.  My son will call people in from other parts of the house to make sure they don’t miss his ‘favorite part.’  He’s been known to rewind it and watch it over again…and force other to, as well, if he doesn’t think people have been paying enough attention.
This infatuation doesn’t bother me or his father.  We live in a very hip-liberal neighborhood, many of our friends are gay, and idea of having a gay son isn’t something that bothers either of us.  Our son is going to be who he is, and it is our job to love him.  End of story.
He is also six.  Six year olds get obsessed with all kinds of things.  This might not mean anything at all.  We always joke that he’s either gay, or we have the best blackmail material in the history of mankind when he’s a 16 year old straight boy. (Take that naked bath time pictures!)
Then the other day we were traveling across the state listening to the Warblers album (of course), and in the middle of Candles, my son pipes up from the back seat.
“Mommy, Kurt and Blaine are boyfriends.”
“Yes, they are,” I affirm.
“They don’t like kissing girls.  They just kiss boys.”
“That’s true.”
“Mommy, they are just like me.”
“That’s great, baby.  You know I love you no matter what?”
“I know…” I could hear him rolling his eyes at me.
When we got home I recapped this conversation to his Dad, and we stood simply looking into each other’s eyes for a moment.  Then we smiled.
“So if at 16 he wants to make a big announcement at the dinner table, we can say ‘You told us when you were six.  Pass the carrots’ and he’ll be disappointed we stole his big dramatic moment,” my husband says with a laugh and hugs me.
Only time will tell if my son is gay, but if he is I am glad he’s mine.  I am glad he has been born into our family.  A family full of people who will love and accept him. People who will never want him to change.  With parents who will look forward to dancing at his wedding.
And I have to admit, Blaine would be a really cute son-in-law.


Miss Lisa said...

*cry* What great parents. Thanks for sharing.

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Anonymous said...

The first time I saw this it made me cry and it still chokes me up. Every parent should read this! Thanks for sharing!

Mitch Block said...

Thanks for sharing it. Wish all families could be like this one!

Anonymous said...

I love your posts but this is the best one I've read in a long time. Thanks for sharing this.

My captcha word was "imbroke", or what Newt's campaign is both financially and morally.

designing wally said...

Lucky kid!

FDeF said...

Amazing...what a positive, wonderful family. Yet I've seen hateful comments on websites that condemn Glee and other TV shows for treating gay characters in a matter-of-fact manner and thus promoting our evil "gay agenda". Such TV characters are important - not just for our "agenda" but obviously to kids who will hopefully be spared the struggles and confusion about their sexual identity for lack of role models.

Tivo Mom said...

I adore this and hope that as a parent I can live up to this example. Absolutely amazing. Love the kid you have...never try to make them be someone they are not. Love this.

Paul V. said...

That was so amazing to read, and I'm thrilled it went so viral! And, it's pretty impossible to disagree with an amazing mom who's telling the world: I WILL LOVE MY CHILD UNCONDITIONALLY! Bravo, mom!!! :)