Jesse Thorn, content creator and father to a trans daughter,
posted a defense of trans kids during which he posed a question for
all the cisgender haters:
“I have this memory of my wife handing me a printout of the
book [she wrote, Feels Good to Be Yourself] and I read it, and I was
just pouring tears. You’d think that would be because, like, this is a
beautiful story of a trans kid, and it’s our kid. But actually, no. Actually,
it was because it was about all of us. I’m cisgender. Everybody always assumed
I was a man, and I actually am a man. And until my daughter came out, I never
really had to think about my gender identity or even about anyone else’s. It
was like transparent to me. I never consciously checked in with myself. People
just assumed something, and it happened that they were right, so it just sort
of ‘was'. And so when my kid came out, I had to really stretch my mind to
imagine her experience. It was so different from my experience. I never chose
my identity, and so my daughter must be choosing hers, and she must be
rejecting my way of being in the world, is how it felt. [Those who hate trans
people are] sort of caught on their back foot like, ‘Wait, I didn’t choose
anything. These trans people must be choosing. I’m neutral. They’re different.
They are rejecting me,’ and then people are taking that uncomfortable feeling
and getting really nasty. In my wife’s book, there is no, ‘This way is normal.
This way is different.’ There is the expectation that we each will engage with
our own identities, think about who we are, and we might come up with different
answers. Trans people had to look inward. Everybody was wrong about them. They
had to figure themselves out. For cis people, we just never even tried. [My
wife’s book] puts trans kids and cis kids on the same level. It’s because it
asks cis people to think about themselves. It’s scary. What if we ask ourselves
about ourselves, and we don’t like the answer?”
Thorn suggests that if you fear trans people “is it because
they’re weird, or because you are being forced to deal with you?”
And that’s the answer. Pretty simple, eh?
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Will this be the end of 60 Minutes? I hope not.
ReplyDeleteJesse Thorn's quotation explains the situation so clearly. It applies not only to trans people and cis people's reactions to them, but also to lesbigay people and straight people's reactions to us.
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