Wednesday, June 10, 2026

Architecture Wednesday: Little Woods Church

Built in 1902, the church has been thoughtfully restored to preserve its original charm, then sensitively extended to create beautiful new modern bedrooms and a bathroom, all while honoring the building’s historic form.

Set on one-third of an acre and surrounded by open farmland, Little Woods enjoys sweeping rural views and breathtaking sunrises to the east. The main church building forms the heart of the home, an open-plan living space that brings together a custom 360-degree rotating fireplace, dining area, and a fully equipped kitchen with stone countertops. Gothic arched windows frame glimpses of the surrounding landscape, while French doors open onto a deck and brick fire pit surrounded by the towering pine and cypress trees.

The bathroom offers the best of both worlds—old-world charm and a contemporary floor-to-ceiling window that captures the view beyond. This serene space features a classic claw-foot bath, a rainhead shower, and beautifully textured limestone tiles.

Ascending the steps to the master bedroom, you move seamlessly from old to new. A thoughtfully designed architectural extension introduces warmth and richness, creating calm, cozy spaces that open to two beautiful yet contrasting outlooks. Deep brown long-pile wool carpet, spotted gum paneling, soft lighting, natural-fiber bedding, and discreetly hidden storage come together to form a space designed for rest, immersion, and renewal. Adjacent to the bedroom is a small desk and study nook, along with a dedicated reading or retreat room which has views of the back yard.

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Monday, June 08, 2026

Happy Pride: Sir Lady Java

In the Los Angeles club scene of the 1960s, Sir Lady Java—a dancer, comedian and drag queen—was a two-shows-a-night fixture. But two shows a night wasn’t all she did; Java—who passed away in 2024—was not just a performer, but also a pioneering activist—even though her work for the LGBTQ+ community and laws that restricted drag performance is not always taught as a part of LGBTQ+ history much less American history.

As a Black gender non-conforming woman, Java was at the intersection of discriminatory policing targeting both Black and brown communities and queer communities in 1960s Los Angeles and across America in cities like San Francisco and Chicago and St. Louis that welcomed diversity.

Born in 1940, Java moved from New Orleans to Los Angeles as a child with her family, and transitioned at a young age with the help, support and love of her mother. After graduating high school, Java became part of the vibrant Black performance art scene in L.A. and took on stand-up comedy and go-go dancing gigs at nightclubs across the city. But while she was taking the nightlife scene by storm and was featured in magazines like Jet, Ebony and Sepia, she was also the focus of increasing surveillance from the LAPD.

First introduced in 1958, the notorious Rule #9 of the local municipal code dictated that no bar owner could employ anyone who performed as the opposite sex to the one they were assigned at birth. For Java, the consequences of that law reached fever pitch during a run of performances in October 1967 at the Redd Foxx, a Black-owned nightclub which catered to a wide audience—the club was took the stage name of its owner, comedian and actor John Elroy Sanford.

Now, Sanford applied for a permit that would enable Java to perform, but the LAPD denied the permit, mentioning “female impersonators” which is how Java referred to herself. But her decision to live openly as a woman at that time is part of what made her trailblazing and her use of the phrase “female impersonator” encapsulated a variety of identities that today we might think of as transgender woman or cross-dresser.

After the permit was refused, Java held a protest arguing for her right to work, and the American Civil Liberties Union [ACLU] backed her efforts to try to overturn Rule #9 but California’s state supreme court wouldn’t hear the suit; due to the way Rule #9 was framed, the plaintiff had to be a bar owner rather than a performer, and the ACLU couldn’t find a bar owner willing to see the lawsuit through.

And while Java’s case was unsuccessful in court, her protest did raise awareness and visibility, and two years later, the rule was overturned via a separate lawsuit. In many ways, those challenges have continued to the present day. It was only in 2021 that the U.S. Supreme Court handed down a landmark ruling protecting LGBTQ+ employees from discrimination and yet that same year we saw a number of bills rolling back transgender rights across the United States, largely targeting transgender youth access to healthcare and participation in sports.

And today we continue to face an onslaught of anti-LGBTQ+ policies and bad-faith legislation, especially toward our trans brothers and sisters. We must remember that the rights and spaces we have today are the result of decades of struggle and resilience by people like Sir Lady Java.

There’s a couple of old sayings about history that if we don’t learn from it, we are doomed to repeat it, and another that says history doesn’t repeat itself, but it does rhyme. While we’ve made strides in codifying LGBTQIA+ rights, many of the issues Lady Java fought against—discrimination, erasure, and marginalization—are still with us as the federal government seeks to strip transgender and gender nonconforming people of legal recognition and protection.

Our history is important, especially in a society that does not see our history and culture as worth teaching. We need to remember, and speak about, our Black queer and trans elders who fought so that we could have the rights and visibility we do today. Their stories are not “old stories”—they’re a battle plan for the future—as we face the butchering of transgender legal protections.

We must look back at the courage of people like [from left to right] Sir Lady Java, Stormé Delarverie, a biracial, lesbian drag king, and Marsha P. Johnson, a key figure in the 1969 Stonewall uprising, and advocate for unhoused and transgender youth.

We need to know where we come from so we can fight to be where we want to be, where we have a right to be.

Saturday, June 06, 2026

Why Is It ...

… that we have anger management classes but we don’t have stupidity management classes? You can be dumb but I can’t be angry?

… that you need to know that someone, somewhere, right now, is thinking of you and the impact you’ve made on their life, but it isn’t me cuz I think you’re an effing idiot.

… that people don’t understand that I’m not really a “people person,” I am more of a “one human at a time, by appointment only” kind of person ... “no walk-ins allowed.”

… that when my therapist asked what triggers me and I replied, “Nouns,” she didn’t understand until I added, “People, places and things.”

… that I just learned that the serving size for chips is ten; hell, I eat ten chips while trying to decide if I want chips.

… that people are just now learning how good water is for you … you want to lose weight, drink water … you want clear skin, more water … don’t like a person, drown them. Water is amazing.

… that people are all against cigarettes, sugar and booze now but forget who was there for you when your life fell apart; hint: it wasn’t broccoli.

… that people can’t understand why The Wizard of Oz is my all-time favorite movie? I mean, dropping houses on a bitch, making them melt and shiz, I live for that.

… that men don’t test anti-wrinkle creams on their ball sack first? If it gets wrinkles out of that, I’m buying that shiz in bulk.

Friday, June 05, 2026

I Didn't Say It ... Happy Pride!

Zohran Mamdani, NYC Democrat Mayor, on Pride Month:

“It would take far more than a month to honor the contributions of queer and transgender New Yorkers. From the Cercle Hermaphrodites in 1895, the first trans advocacy group in the United States, to the drag balls of the Harlem Renaissance, to the Stonewall uprising , to the Lesbian Herstory archives, to Act Up! Founded in 1987 as queer people fought for their lives while the Reagan administration looked away, New York City’s history has long been shaped by queer and trans New Yorker’s/ To all our queer and trans neighbors, you deserve a city where you can afford to live safely, openly and joyfully. Happy Pride, New York City!”

This is how you do it. Praise the struggle, praise the march, praise the battle, praise those who came before us.

Remember, praise, Pride.

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Patti LaBelle, legendary entertainer, on her gay fans:

“When I think about it, the gay fans are one big reason I’m still standing, ‘cause they loved me when other people tried not to.”

Patti was very different when she first arrived on the scene and The Gays loved her, loved her difference, loved her fierceness.

And we still do.

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Marlon Wayans, on supporting his transgender son, Kai, through his transition:

"It taught me true, unconditional love. I've never been married because I was never ready for marriage. And I went through this journey with my child, and it taught me to love unconditionally. At the end of the day, are my children happy? And if they're happy, then I'm happy for them. My job as a father is to protect, respect and honor my children, and make sure they feel supported. It's not my job to judge them; it's my job to love them. All of my kids are gifts, and our love is the wrapping paper.  And if you think you're gonna bully my child, go somewhere else. It's not going to happen. I won't stand for it. I'm not here for hate. Transphobia is a form of hate. Homophobia is a form of hate. Racism is a form of hate. All those small-hearted, small-minded people, there's a hell for you. And if you think you’re gonna bully my child, go somewhere else. It’s not going to happen. I won’t stand for it.”

This is how you parent, as I always say … unconditionally, supportive, loving.

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Marcia Gay Harden, Oscar-winning actress and mother of queer children, in a speech at the LA LGBT Center’s A Place We Call Home gala:

“The people I need to talk to tonight are old, staunch, stubborn families. Families who don’t accept the queer community, and because I also believe that mothers are the real vanguards of change and the torchbearers for community, it is mothers that I’m talking to tonight. If you’ve not welcomed the queer community into your life, either as friends or should you be so lucky, your children, you are cutting off your nose to spite your face. You’re missing out on a fabulous life experience and basically you’re making a great big mistake. Saying to your children, you can’t be you and live in my home or be in my family, you are losing out because they won’t come home for [holidays  and] honey, you haven’t seen anything until you’ve seen a lesbian stuff a Thanksgiving turkey. No one chooses the holiday decorations for the Christmas party faster than a gay man. I mean come on, twink twink twinkle. And should your ex happen to show up at that same Christmas party with his girlfriend or perhaps the new wife, the queers will be the first to tell you that you are serving c**t. [So] march with us … help us protect your child. Be an ally. Your life will be extraordinarily enhanced and open up wonderful new doors and new experiences for you. So instead of telling young people all across the country that who they are is somehow wrong or they are undeserving of dignity, join us in pointing out that what other people see as faults or cracks is simply where the light gets in.”

Once you get the mothers standing up for our community the rest of the world will follow because as we all know women rule.

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John Casey, senior editor of The Advocate, on Cher’s 80th birthday:

“When you’re a gay man of a certain age, and you can remember Sonny and Cher because the two names went together, and then you watch her decades later, still fabulous, still performing, still cranking out the hits, something in you feels zesty and invincible—even though that’s a real stretch considering everything. Yet, Cher is proof. Proof that the number on the calendar doesn’t have to define the size of your life.”

Ageless and timeless, and the only solo artist in history to achieve number-one hits on a Billboard chart in seven consecutive decades, spanning from the 1960s to the 2020s.

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