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Our newest contestants, brothers in hotness. So, you can only have one ... Which Hemsworth do you choose?
Liam, up top there, or Chris?
Remember, just one ....
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Friday, September 27, 2013
Would You Hit It ... Which Hemsworth Would You Hit?
I Didn't Say It ...
Andy Cohen, Bravo TV bigwig, on the gossip that he’s engaged
to NHL star and LGBT ally Sean Avery.
"Dude, Sean Avery is
straight. Do you understand that? So a gay guy and a straight guy should be
able to be friends without you asking me if we're engaged, right? Very, very
straight. Listen, I'd be happy if Sean and I were bangin ... but it's not [happening]."
I’d be happy to be banging Sean.
Just sayin’.
Joe Biden, on LGBT rights and
his marriage equality stance:
“A lot of people criticized me
for speaking out, not long ago, about gay marriage. I could not remain silent
any more. It's time we stopped talking. It’s the civil rights of our day. It’s
the issue of our day … That’s why the president eliminated DOMA, Don't Ask,
Dont' Tell. That's why he came out against this notion that marriage can
somehow be recognized in one state and denied in another. And when it comes to
the rights of — you know the president's phrase, and I'll paraphrase this
slightly — that everybody in America should have the dignity to choose who they
love and marry who they choose. He believes that but not just because it's a
human right because it's about treating everyone with dignity."
Word.
And once again, thanks Joe.
John Nienstedt, Minneapolis
Archbishop, on the Devil and The Gays:
"Today, many evil forces
have set their sights on the dissolution of marriage and the debasing of family
life. Sodomy, Sodomy, abortion, contraception, pornography, the redefinition of
marriage, and the denial of objective truth are just some of the forces
threatening the stability of our civilization. The source of these machinations
is none other than the Father of Lies. Satan knows all too well the value that
the family contributes to the fabric of a good solid society, as well as the
future of God's work on earth."
Funny, he doesn't blame Satan
for Catholic priests f**king little boys and girls.
Elton John, on Lady Gaga,
Lindsay Lohan, Miley Cyrus and Michael Jackson:
“I’d like to be able to talk to [Lady Gaga]
right now, but I can’t get through to her. And there are times when you have to
listen. When your persona begins to take over your music and becomes more
important, you enter a dangerous place. Once you have people around you who
don’t question you, you’re in a dangerous place.
…
“[Lindsay Lohan] was someone
with a successful career and her parents completely f—ed her up. The dad was in
jail and the mum was doing coke with her. Great!”
…
I see a meltdown waiting to
happen … And [Miley’s] so young! But she’s got two records in the top 20, so
who is going to stop her?
…
“I was in my dressing room in
Las Vegas when they announced that Michael Jackson was playing 50 dates at the
O2. I turned to my agent and said: ‘He won’t do a single one of those.’ I could
tell you he was going to die. He’d been doing drugs for so long, he’d been a
mess for so long – and I’ve known Michael since he was 12 or 13 – that it was
never going to happen. Everyone was saying it was going to be great and I was
saying: ‘Hello? Are you looking at the real thing here?’”
Elton does love to dish; I’ll
give him that. And he’s right about Gaga; it’s less important what she sings and more important what she wears. As for Lohan, maybe—if rumors
are true—she’s keeping her distance from her parents and that would be good.
Miley? She’s making record companies a lot of money so they’ll continue to let
her do and say and wear, or not wear, whatever she wants as long as the cash
registers ring. As for Michael, I think we all knew that concert tour would
never happen, even if we didn’t know it was because he was going to die.
Gwyneth Paltrow, on turning 41
and how, because her husband Chris Martin threw her so many parties last year,
she’ll celebrate this year:
"This year it's Chick-fil-A. That's it."
Wow.
Paltrow, who portrays herself as some sort of Vegan Goddess,
and inspirer of regular people, will eat Chick-fil-A?
No wonder The Gays are done with her.
Tim Gunn, on never coming out
to his parents:
"It was a very different time. It was a very different
era. And I had a lot of fears about being gay, about what that actually meant.
And I had already presented my family with a lot of disappointments and I
didn't feel that I wanted to present them with yet this. It's very funny,
though. My mother died two years ago. And I think she eventually figured out my
sexuality, but we never talked about it. And my father was gone long before. We
never once talked about it.”
It certainly was a different time, and Gunn’s parents were
from a time before that.
Still, I feel sad he couldn’t be his whole self to his
parents.
Robert Redford, coming out for
marriage equality at an event in Utah:
"I'm here for the same reason you are – equal rights for all.
Like you, I believe there's no place in our world for discrimination. None. I
think it is un-American. If we change discriminatory laws in Utah, it sets a
benchmark for people in other states; it allows people to see what can be
done."
The march goes on … and Redford has stepped up.
John Hawkins, former South Carolina State Senator who led the charge in our state to amend the constitution to ban same-sex marriage, on now coming out for marriage equality:
"I was wrong about pursing the marriage amendment. I wish I hadn't been so strident against it....I'm really hoping that people are going to walk away from this with a little bit of healing...It would be great if everyone who stood against us in the Senate said, 'We were wrong; In fact, you really do deserve equal rights.'"
While it would have been nice to have him change his stance while still a senator, it's refreshing to see yet another politician realize that now it is the for full marriage equality.
Debbie Wasserman-Schultz, the Democratic congressman from Flroida, on teh GOP and the Tea party:
"The civil war that has been raging within the Republican Party is over. And now that the House has voted to shut down the government unless Obamacare is defunded, it's official: The Tea Party has won — the far right is calling the shots."
Say goodbye to any form of bipartisanship when it comes to the 'baggers. The party that doesn't listen is running the show over there.
John Hawkins, former South Carolina State Senator who led the charge in our state to amend the constitution to ban same-sex marriage, on now coming out for marriage equality:
"I was wrong about pursing the marriage amendment. I wish I hadn't been so strident against it....I'm really hoping that people are going to walk away from this with a little bit of healing...It would be great if everyone who stood against us in the Senate said, 'We were wrong; In fact, you really do deserve equal rights.'"
While it would have been nice to have him change his stance while still a senator, it's refreshing to see yet another politician realize that now it is the for full marriage equality.
Debbie Wasserman-Schultz, the Democratic congressman from Flroida, on teh GOP and the Tea party:
"The civil war that has been raging within the Republican Party is over. And now that the House has voted to shut down the government unless Obamacare is defunded, it's official: The Tea Party has won — the far right is calling the shots."
Say goodbye to any form of bipartisanship when it comes to the 'baggers. The party that doesn't listen is running the show over there.
Happy Birthday Mom
*this is a repost from 2009.
Today is my Mother's birthday. She would have been 76 if...........I remember many things about my Mom.
The Mom who baked things for school.
The Mom who made the best Clam Chowder on rainy winter days.
The Mom who painted.
The Mom who laughed.
The Mom who loved you no matter what.
The Mom who, as soon as Carlos and I moved in together, would introduce him as her son-in-law.
The Mom who was married to my Dad for over 50 years.
The Mom who was a Nurse.
The Mom who loved to travel.
The Mom who taught me to love books.
I love my Mom.
I miss my Mom.
Today is my Mother's birthday. She would have been 76 if...........I remember many things about my Mom.
The Mom who baked things for school.
The Mom who made the best Clam Chowder on rainy winter days.
The Mom who painted.
The Mom who laughed.
The Mom who loved you no matter what.
The Mom who, as soon as Carlos and I moved in together, would introduce him as her son-in-law.
The Mom who was married to my Dad for over 50 years.
The Mom who was a Nurse.
The Mom who loved to travel.
The Mom who taught me to love books.
I love my Mom.
I miss my Mom.
Thursday, September 26, 2013
Random Musings
Kasey Caron Can't Be Homecoming King Because She Was Assigned Male Gender At Birth
Why it
seemed like only a minute ago that I posted about Cassidy Lynn Campbell
becoming perhaps the first transgender homecoming queen in US history out there
in California—see that post HERE. I loved that story, seeing it for what it was,
a huge shift, in at least one spot, in the attitudes toward transgender people.
Of course, on the other side of the country, in Pennsylvania to be exact, the
attitudes haven’t shifted.
The Richland School
Board, in western Pennsylvania has ruled that Kasey Caron — born female, though
he now identifies as male — cannot run for homecoming king, and they put his name on the ballot as homecoming queen.
School Board attorney
Timothy Leventry says Pennsylvania law — an outdated law that needs to change —
requires a person born female to have a physician certify a sex change
operation and have their birth certificate legally changed to be considered
male. As a result, the Richland board refused to recognize Kasey as a boy — even
though his family, friends, classmates and teachers refer to Kasey as 'him.' A young
man, in the eyes of everyone, but the school board, a third party, declares
that he isn’t male, but female.
Kasey was born with
polycystic ovary syndrome, a condition that leads to a hormone imbalance where
the ovaries make more male hormones than normal; he has been subjected to the question
‘Are you a boy or a girl?’ all of his life, but all through his high school
years he has identified as male. Even his teachers and classmates see him as male.
Earlier this year, a guidance counselor suggested he enter his name for
homecoming king, and Kasey felt certain the school would accept his gender
identity, but on the day the student body was scheduled to vote for the
homecoming court, administrators told Caron that they were required to list him,
him, on the female ballot, because he
is legally identified as female on his driver's license.
Kasey’s name was on
the female ballot, but students voted him onto the homecoming court and then, calling
Caron’s a 'unique situation' school administrators said he could go to the
homecoming parade with a date of his choice, rather than automatically pairing
him with another male student running for homecoming king.
How big of them … okay, it was something, something small, but
something.
Kasey, who plans to
clinically transition once he turns 18, is disappointed that the school board
didn't immediately rule on the request, but he remains hopeful.
“I thought they were going to have a change of heart. I am still hoping for one.”
Kathy Caron has said she will continue to support Kasey:
"I love my son, and my son is the most awesome. I couldn't ask for anything better."
My son; that says it all.
Wednesday, September 25, 2013
Architecture Wednesday: Mandeville Canyon
Mandeville Canyon is located in Brentwood, California and brings to mind the old Pueblo homes of the Southwest, and even the cliff houses built by Native Americans in Arizona and New Mexico.
The rust-colored walls instantly give this home a warm effect, and its open plan and plentiful windows allow nature to join the interior, to capture the light and play with it. A horse ranch, too, it's a livable romantic blend of contemporary and Southwestern architectural sensibilities, originally created for two artists, husband and wife; one an architect turned director, another, a writer and sommelier.
Architecture, movies and wine; three of my favorite things!
And the couple wanted a home to capture two of their favorite places: a restoration in Italy and a loft in New York City. He wanted contemporary, she longed for romantic, so the plan called for open, cleanly outlined spaces that flowed one into another. Thick, clay colored walls with many deep portals create sculptures of light in constant variation. In addition, the pool meets the edge of the house at a large expanse of glass, producing a dazzling effect indoors and out.
Peaceful and beautiful, in the midst of Los Angeles.
source
The rust-colored walls instantly give this home a warm effect, and its open plan and plentiful windows allow nature to join the interior, to capture the light and play with it. A horse ranch, too, it's a livable romantic blend of contemporary and Southwestern architectural sensibilities, originally created for two artists, husband and wife; one an architect turned director, another, a writer and sommelier.
Architecture, movies and wine; three of my favorite things!
And the couple wanted a home to capture two of their favorite places: a restoration in Italy and a loft in New York City. He wanted contemporary, she longed for romantic, so the plan called for open, cleanly outlined spaces that flowed one into another. Thick, clay colored walls with many deep portals create sculptures of light in constant variation. In addition, the pool meets the edge of the house at a large expanse of glass, producing a dazzling effect indoors and out.
Peaceful and beautiful, in the midst of Los Angeles.
source
Being Gay Is A Choice, Just Like Carrying A Gun Into Starbucks
I saw this at Maybe its Just me--and if you aren't reading that blog then, why aren't you reading that blog--and I needed a good rant.
Listen to this asshat who, as an ALLEGED law school graduate should try to get hired on by the NRA. His argument is as stupid, as lame, as moronic, as homophobic, as outdated, as any put forth by the National Rifle Association.
Listen:
Let me explain this to you, you gun-toting, uneducated fool.
Being gay is an innate part of me; I was, and I hate that i sound like I'm quoting Gaga, born this way. And for you to suggest that being born gay is the same as someone who chooses, CHOOSES, to carry a weapon into a coffee shop is the height of stupidity.
You chose to carry a gun and think, wrongly, that the 2nd Amendment allows you to toe it around like Berkin bag of honor wherever you go. It doesn't; it's a choice.
Being gay is not a choice; being black is not a choice. There is no such thing as gayness, like there is no such thing as blackness. But, being pro-gun, and stupid, even if you went to law school, and having access to a YouTube account to share your stupidity, is a choice.
Who needs a gun with a latte? Seriously.
I guess the person why says, with an ALLEGED straight face, that his gun is part of his lifestyle, i think it's more part of your death style, because, remember this, anyone who carries a gun intends to use it.
Yes, they do. Think about it; you don't carry a gun for show, like a fancy phone or a new watch; you carry a phone to make and receive calls and annoy people on trains; you carry a watch to tell time; you carry a gun to shoot someone if the situation arises, and I, for one, would like to be able to have a cup of coffee without someone like this fool parading his lifestyle choice in front of me in line.
Listen to this asshat who, as an ALLEGED law school graduate should try to get hired on by the NRA. His argument is as stupid, as lame, as moronic, as homophobic, as outdated, as any put forth by the National Rifle Association.
Listen:
Let me explain this to you, you gun-toting, uneducated fool.
Being gay is an innate part of me; I was, and I hate that i sound like I'm quoting Gaga, born this way. And for you to suggest that being born gay is the same as someone who chooses, CHOOSES, to carry a weapon into a coffee shop is the height of stupidity.
You chose to carry a gun and think, wrongly, that the 2nd Amendment allows you to toe it around like Berkin bag of honor wherever you go. It doesn't; it's a choice.
Being gay is not a choice; being black is not a choice. There is no such thing as gayness, like there is no such thing as blackness. But, being pro-gun, and stupid, even if you went to law school, and having access to a YouTube account to share your stupidity, is a choice.
Who needs a gun with a latte? Seriously.
I guess the person why says, with an ALLEGED straight face, that his gun is part of his lifestyle, i think it's more part of your death style, because, remember this, anyone who carries a gun intends to use it.
Yes, they do. Think about it; you don't carry a gun for show, like a fancy phone or a new watch; you carry a phone to make and receive calls and annoy people on trains; you carry a watch to tell time; you carry a gun to shoot someone if the situation arises, and I, for one, would like to be able to have a cup of coffee without someone like this fool parading his lifestyle choice in front of me in line.
The Coach Comes Out
I’ve always said that being in the closet about anything — and
that means lying about any aspect of your life — is a terrible thing with which
to live. Those closeted, in denial, people tend to make decisions based on
their lies, their closets, and live to regret them. Like the gay man, or woman,
who marries, heterosexually speaking, because they think it’s expected, it’s
what they should do, it’ll keep their secret safe. It doesn’t always work out
like that and Micah Porter is a shining example.
Porter lived the textbook life; good student, great athlete;
he had a wife, two children, a job he loved; he was a four-time Colorado state
champion head coach for cross-country and track & field, and had won awards
for excellence in teaching, including being named Teacher of the Year. He was
also a closeted gay man, suffering depression as a result of his secret. He
sought counseling to figure out what was wrong and medicated himself to deal
with his decisions.
"I knew why I was depressed. I knew it was because of my sexuality. I felt incredibly guilty for continuing to have the feelings while being married. I felt like a fraud."
And he didn’t like that feeling, of not being his true self;
he was almost forty and he’d lived a life that wasn’t the one he wanted, that
wasn’t the one he’d hoped for; a life that wasn’t really his. And even though
he’d always dated women, and even though he married a woman and fathered two children,
Micah Porter knew he wasn’t being honest about himself. And in 2009, he told
his wife that he had an idea about why he was depressed, where it was coming
from, and why.
"I'm gay."
Her reaction was really the typical one; silence, followed by
disbelief and concern, anger and hurt. She had spent years married to this man
and now, suddenly, he was telling her he was gay. It took time, but she began
to understand that Micah was, at last, being truthful, and over the course of several
months, the couple talked to their children about their father’s sexual orientation,
separated and finally divorced.
"It was hard to see her in pain because of that. In many ways, the guilt I'd been harboring for years for being gay was replaced by the guilt of hurting her."
And everything changed; Micah Porter was a single dad, living
in an apartment and struggling to make ends meet. But for the first time in his
life, Porter was himself, and now he felt that same need to tell other people. And,
even though he was a highly respected track and field coach, and an excellent
teacher, Porter wondered what life, and his work, might be like if he told his
employer, his co-workers, and if he could, or even should, tell his students,
and his team that he was gay.
He’d gotten a mixed response from the administration when came
out as gay to them in 2010. While there was never a doubt that he could keep
his job, continue teaching and coaching, he was actually advised not to go into
the boys’ locker room anymore; if he needed something from the locker room, he
should have an assistant coach take care of it.
Now, the administration said their ‘advice’ had nothing to do
with any concern about Porter’s behavior, but rather from the potential for
false accusations that might be leveled at him; it was feared that a parent or
student might use Porter's sexual orientation against him by falsely accusing
him of improprieties in the locker room. It was decided that Micah Porter would
stay away from the locker room, and that, because of that new rule, he would
have to change from his teacher clothes to his coaching uniform in a school
bathroom.
"Every day I have to go into a bathroom to change. It's a reminder that I'm a second-class citizen in a school I've given so much to."
It was also suggested that he keep the news of his sexual
orientation to himself; to basically stay in the closet that had, for years,
fed his depression. Although some co-workers knew he was gay, especially after
the divorce, no one thought he should tell his students; they did not want his team
to know.
"We have a general rule that our teachers and coaches don't discuss their personal lives with their students or athletes. The kids don't want to hear about your personal life, and neither do the parents. They just want you to coach or teach their child. … I support Micah 150%. I always have and I always will. I don't have a bad word to say about the guy. He's a great coach, he's a great teacher."—Jerry McWhorter, the school athletic director
And yet, as happens when you try to keep a secret, the news
that maybe Coach Porter was gay began to come out. See, Micah Porter, now free
to live his life the way he wanted, began dating another man, Brandan
Rader, whom he had met when Radar gave a speech at another school encouraging LGBT
students to accept their sexual orientation.
Micah Porter asked Rader to lunch, and they have been
together since. And, as couples are apt to do, they went about their lives together;
they walked around town together, shopped together, dined together; with the
coach, the recently divorced coach, being seen out and about in the company of
the same man for a couple of years, people began to talk. And the talk trickled
down to the student body; in fact, Micah’s daughter, now a freshman at the
University of Denver, was asked by a runner if her dad was gay; the basketball
coach was asked by his team about if Porter was gay.
"When people ask, I tell them. My closest friends at school know, and I tell them they can tell whomever they want. It's a major part of who I am as a person, but it's not the defining part. I'm a coach, I'm a teacher, I'm a dad, I'm Brandan's partner. I happen to be gay, but it's not something I need to put on a billboard."
And yet, because of the advice from the administration,
Porter hadn’t said a word about it to his team, and he believed that maybe
coming out to them wasn’t a good idea, even though he wanted to be open out his
sexual orientation.
When a private high school tried to recruit him to be their
new cross-country coach, Porter wondered that, if he took the job, they could
fire him for being gay. He spoke to a lawyer who said he should tell the
leaders at this Christian school that he was gay, hoping it would prevent
problems down the road. His plan worked; he never heard from the school again.
And so, last week, against the advice of the school the administration,
and the athletic director, Micah Porter decided to come out. He’d wanted to
take a proactive role in making the school a more welcoming place for LGBT students
and since almost the entire staff knows he’s gay, and with counselors asking
him to talk to students struggling with coming out, the time was right.
"Ultimately, I need to take charge of the decision. That's been a change in personality for me since I came out. I'm not going to let others decide how I should embrace who I am as a person. I let that happen for too long in my life."
Porter called his team together before practice and told them
he had some news. He let them know that an article about him would be coming
out — the source for this post, in OutSports — and that the article discussed
him being gay.
He was received by silence. A few seconds later, one of the
team leaders stood up, shook his hand, told him it didn't matter; then he asked
about practice. The rest of the team laced up their shoes and followed suit.
"It was a positive moment for me and for them as young men and for us as a young team. After all that worry, it was a non-issue for them."
And despite his concerns, Jerry McWhorter hasn’t had one
complaint from the team, or any parents, about Micah Porter being gay.
"I wake up every day excited about life and my job and my relationship with Brandan. We bought a house together. We're building a life together. There are parts of my life I hope to repair, but I take better care of myself, I have so much more confidence than I ever have in my life. For the first time in a long time, I've had people tell me I look happy. For the first time in a long time, I am."
As I said, coming out of the closet isn’t just telling those
around us that we’re gay; it’s also telling ourselves, and realizing that we’re
okay, and that we deserve happiness, just like anyone else.
Tuesday, September 24, 2013
The Pope: My Two Cents
So, I waited a bit while the
world rejoiced, or complained, or shrugged, after Pope Francis made his ALLEGEDLY pro-LGBT statements; he wants
The church to be less focused on one issue, like abortion, or The Gays, and be
more focused on, well, everything else, I guess. I mean, some folks played it like
he was the second coming of Liza or Bette, or for those younger gays, Britney
and Gaga with his, um, I kinda like The
Gays speech. But I waited, because, even
though he is the Catholic Church and
the leader of The Church, I didn’t think The Church would suddenly embrace his
little remarks, and they didn’t fail me.
Let’s be clear: the Catholic Church,
no matter what the Pope says, is still anti-LGBT; they are still anti-marriage
equality; they are still anti-contraception; they are still anti-condom, even
if the use of condoms can halt the spread of HIV. So, nothing’s changed. But
then why are so many rejoicing? His little ‘Can’t we all get along’ speech was
not earth shattering, because
it was meaningless.
The next day, right after
telling his minions to be less one issue oriented, he reiterated the Church’s
stance against abortion. It was like he meant, let’s be less focused on
one issue … today; tomorrow we’ll go back to being backwards.
Here’s what he said about The Gays:
“A person once asked me, in a provocative manner, if I approved of homosexuality. I replied with another question: ‘Tell me: when God looks at a gay person, does he endorse the existence of this person with love, or reject and condemn this person?’ We must always consider the person.”
Which, loosely
translated, means, love the sinner, hate the sin, also known as the same spiel
they’ve been selling for years.
Now,
is it nice that the Pope mentioned us without also using the words ‘damned to
the fiery pits of hell’? Yeah, that was nice, but anyone who thinks that the
Catholic Church has suddenly become a rainbow flag waving, feather boa wearing,
Gay Pride marching ally to this community is sadly mistaken.
The
Pope is just covering his bases; with membership in the Catholic Church, in all churches, dwindling faster than Congress’
approval ratings, he’s apt to say whatever he can to make the Church seem
forgiving and accepting and open. They
aren’t; not yet and not by a long shot. And if you need any more proof, how
about this:
In Melbourne, Australia, dissident priest Greg Reynolds has
been both defrocked and excommunicated because he has come out in support of
female priests and The Gays. And this excommunication order did not come from
the Melbourne Archdiocese, but rather it came directly from the Vatican.
The excommunication document — written in Latin and giving
no reason for the excommunication — was dated May 31, meaning it comes under
the authority of Pope Francis; the same Pope who wants the Church to be less ‘rule-obsessed’
about The Gays.
Father Reynolds, who had resigned his priesthood in 2011m
and then founded the Inclusive Catholics, had expected to be defrocked, but not
excommunicated, but says it makes no difference to his ministry:
“In times past excommunication was a huge thing, but today the hierarchy have lost such trust and respect. … I've come to this position because I've followed my conscience on women's ordination and gay marriage.''
So, let’s keep it real; Father Reynolds is, or was, what the Catholic Church could become if they ever decided to live with the rest of us in this century, but the Pope is still a mouthpiece, spewing nonsense about the church being less
binding when it comes to its rules on such subjects like gays, same-sex
marriage, and abortion and contraception. The same Pope who cut off
a priest who stood up for women and The Gays.
Nothing’s changed. It’s all a smokescreen; a white smokescreen.
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