Connor Jessup, actor, coming out as gay:
“I knew I was gay when I was thirteen, but I hid it for years. I folded it and slipped it under the rest of my emotional clutter. Not worth the hassle. No one will care anyway. If I can just keep making it smaller, smaller, smaller …. My shame took the form of a shrug, but it was shame. I’m a white, cis man from an upper-middle class liberal family. Acceptance was never a question. But still, suspended in all this privilege, I balked. It took me years. It’s ongoing. I’m saying this now because I have conspicuously not said it before. I’ve been out for years in my private life, but never quite publicly. I’ve played that tedious game. Most painfully, I’ve talked about the gay characters I’ve played from a neutral, almost anthropological distance, as if they were separate from me. These evasions are bizarre and embarrassing to me now, but at the time they were natural. Discretion was default, and it seemed benign. It would be presumptuous to assume anyone would care, yeah? And anyway, why should I have to say anything? What right do strangers have to the intimate details of my life? These and other background whispers––new, softer forms of the same voices from when I was thirteen, fourteen, fifteen…. Shame can come heavy and loud, but it can come quiet too; it can take cover behind comfort and convenience. But it’s always violent. For me, this discretion has become airless. I don’t want to censor––consciously or not––the ways I talk, sit, laugh, or dress, the stories I tell, the jokes I make, my points of reference and connection. I don’t want to be complicit, even peripherally, in the idea that being gay is a problem to be solved or hushed. I’m grateful to be gay. Queerness is a solution. It’s a promise against cliché and solipsism and blandness; it’s a tilted head and an open window. I value more every day the people, movies, books, and music that open me to it. If you’re gay, bi, trans, two-spirit or questioning, if you’re confused, if you’re in pain or you feel you’re alone, if you aren’t or you don’t: You make the world more surprising and bearable. To all the queers, deviants, misfits, and lovers in my life: I love you. I love you.”
The honesty is amazing.
Welcome out, Connor, and naturally you will be receiving the obligatory Coming Out Toaster Oven and copy of the Gay Agenda.
Welcome out.
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(Ed Smart, Elisabeth Smart and Connor Jessup)
ReplyDeleteSo nice to have three smiles at the end
of the post. xoxoxxoxo :-)
as London Zoo said, Penguins are queer, get over it! Why do people find things like race, religion, sexual orientation, skin colour etc., such an issue? Look at the person underneath and make your choice on that.
ReplyDeleteOh Bob, seriously what is a toaster oven? Everyone gets an iPhone thingy now. Just make sure it's not the log cabin gay agenda.
ReplyDelete@Sooo- Steven, honey, an iPhone thingy can only produce air. A toaster oven give us (insert angel choir here) toast! And bagels! And Pop Tarts! And warm honey buns! So much better than a media gadget.
ReplyDeleteAs for Jennifer Horn, the dump (as Anne Marie would say) was the dump before he was elected. He wasn't hidden. What's changed?
I want to be a lady, like the dogs' mother :)
Huzzah for Ed Smart and Connor Jessup! Better out than in!
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ReplyDeleteI really loved Connor's coming out story. Very powerful and revealing stuff there.
@Helen
I think some people just need an "other" to look down upon to make themselves better. I suppose, in a way, it's easier than just trying to be a decent human being?
@Steven
I'd be much better served with a toaster oven than with an iPhone thingy! =)
@Deedles
I wanna be a lady like TDM, too.
@Debra
"Better out than in!"
I love that!
the LCR should lose their gay cards; these asstwats are so damn ignorant!
ReplyDeletea toaster oven is the second most used appliance in our kitchen.
I looked at the shit on the shelf behind Moran and wondered, little models of monuments, and realized he stopped maturing at around 12 years of age.
ReplyDeleteSo. . . she can't look her children in the eye and tell them that she was part of an organization that supported tRump, but she's fine with an org that supported George W?
ReplyDeleteMoran? MORAN? The jokes write themselves.
ReplyDeleteThe LCR are quislings.
Ed Smart And Connor Jessup? Yay for visibility. At any age.
XoXo
Wow, the Smarts are more than just smart. And Conner Jessup has my admiration, gratitude, and respect. As for the toaster oven... will he even know what that is?
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