tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post7908855284950808436..comments2024-03-28T16:14:41.017-04:00Comments on I Should Be Laughing: A Gay Man's Letter To His Parents After They Refused To Attend His WeddingBobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15302478126147924237noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-49805949090597490512016-01-17T14:14:08.432-05:002016-01-17T14:14:08.432-05:00You're so lucky Bob. My dearly departed cousi...You're so lucky Bob. My dearly departed cousin Arnie always had the love and support from most all of the family, including his dad. Everyone never treated Arnie any differently after he came out except for one cousin. He had major issues with the fact that Arnie was gay. I told him I could not believe that he could feel that way when we all grew up on the same street together, fought together and played together, went to the same school together for our ENTIRE childhoods. I just couldn't understand how he could erase someone from his entire life because they're gay. I will NEVER understand it. <br /><br />I feel for Patrick and all the others out there who have been cut off from their families because it is beyond cruel. <br /><br />XOXO<br /> Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14480522255028503327noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-61474251602076923322016-01-16T07:47:11.169-05:002016-01-16T07:47:11.169-05:00Not long before she died, knowing that she was thi...Not long before she died, knowing that she was thinking of going back to the man who'd hurt her so very badly, I told my daughter that whatever she decided to do I would always love her and always be there for her. As long as she was happy that was the most important thing for me. And then I lost her forever; to not go to her wedding to a man I disliked would have been unthinkable; I'd have danced and hoped for her to be happy ever after, no matter whom she married. Helen Lashbrookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14806155400041511316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-16867193073185423952016-01-16T07:23:47.335-05:002016-01-16T07:23:47.335-05:00So heartbreaking. I had a therapist who told me &q...So heartbreaking. I had a therapist who told me "A mother's love is unconditional"; despite being a bit of a mess myself, that was the last time I saw that therapist. I wish Patrick Bradley and his husband many years together. I don't expect that his parents will have seen the light as a result of his empowering and intelligent letter, but I hope he's able to sleep better. I had to work at my relationship (with my mother especially) after coming out, but I never experienced anything like this -- although many of my friends did. Moving with Mitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12954028272162285597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-50197651938530151142016-01-16T05:39:52.679-05:002016-01-16T05:39:52.679-05:00Shocking (what she said to him), heartbreaking and...Shocking (what she said to him), heartbreaking and brave (what he said to them).Raybeardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12424095016313843883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-73611721806361381542016-01-16T01:13:10.536-05:002016-01-16T01:13:10.536-05:00Sad. I can't imagine not seeing my children or...Sad. I can't imagine not seeing my children or not being in their lives as long as I am breathing.Tonihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05187611054293001721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-25226162209498118732016-01-16T00:02:07.013-05:002016-01-16T00:02:07.013-05:00Yes, I think it's wonderful when your family a...Yes, I think it's wonderful when your family attends your wedding and shares in your happiness. Leon and I were so fortunate to have that. <br /><br />But it is obvious that had Patrick's parents attended his wedding reluctantly or grudgingly, there would have been little joy in that for either his parents or for him and his husband, or the other guests. Patrick needs to heal his hurt and anger but this letter should have been written and put in a desk drawer for a few years - or for a few days or weeks at least. I think then he might have had different sentiments upon re-reading it. <br /><br />Sadly even those we love and those closest to us may hurt us by expressing or acting on their irrational beliefs. These are attitudes we strive to change by our example and courage, but cannot do so with ultimatums about "I will never see or speak to you again." <br /><br />Such ultimatums allow neither party the graceful response of reconciliation or forgiveness, but only freeze us into hurt and resentment for years, or sadly for lifetimes. Yes, the letter is sad, but for entirely different reasons, I believe.Frankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04058312079036935995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-2690646845891072492016-01-15T19:20:52.594-05:002016-01-15T19:20:52.594-05:00I get he's angry. I get he's sleep deprive...I get he's angry. I get he's sleep deprived. I still wanted to take a red marker to this and edit out all this redundancies. He took so long getting TO the point, I'm guessing his parents tossed the letter or hit 'delete' before the end of the 2nd paragraph. Hey, but if it helped clean his mind, so be it. Blobbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11821768145570876450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-29778466218475818152016-01-15T18:26:16.310-05:002016-01-15T18:26:16.310-05:00Wow. I good letter and well put. I agree with TDM ...Wow. I good letter and well put. I agree with TDM above. When I was with the ex boy toy this could very well have been a letter to his family. Mistress Maddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02098940220513091207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-2093022327655803222016-01-15T18:06:46.874-05:002016-01-15T18:06:46.874-05:00Anyone who asks that you forsake your children is ...Anyone who asks that you forsake your children is not talking to the right Deity.<br />the dogs' motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11512888563325865616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-32026449404935265642016-01-15T17:54:44.559-05:002016-01-15T17:54:44.559-05:00patrick's parents have only themselves to blam...patrick's parents have only themselves to blame. they would rather quote their imaginary friend than to love their own son. mean people suck.anne marie in phillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11765140782182605141noreply@blogger.com