tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post1330855036450348911..comments2024-03-28T22:16:37.893-04:00Comments on I Should Be Laughing: An Open Letter to Carla AlcornBobhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15302478126147924237noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-53557039375094917152015-01-04T05:46:04.385-05:002015-01-04T05:46:04.385-05:00Leelah is remembered here, from my paper today; &q...Leelah is remembered here, from my paper today; "A vigil was held in London yesterday in memory of Leelah Alcorn, a 17 year old from Ohio who killed herself on 28 December. The transgender teenager left a moving note on a social media site blaming her depression and suicide on a lack of healthcare and support. Her death has prompted a petition calling for an end to conversion therapy, something she had been forced to undergo." The Observer 4/1/15Helen Lashbrookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14806155400041511316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-26447437335501991012015-01-03T10:38:38.574-05:002015-01-03T10:38:38.574-05:00@Bob, and on your point we agree. Had this narrow...@Bob, and on your point we agree. Had this narrow minded bigot loved her child, and gotten herself over this problem of her, is is a very real fact that her child would be alive today.<br /><br />Remember that the most intelligent the being, there is a very real ability to see ones own behavior as being able to help, hurt or harm others. And Leelah's mother hasn't attained that level of self awareness.The Cool Cookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04162345087029159056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-83362811107677591822015-01-03T06:46:56.285-05:002015-01-03T06:46:56.285-05:00I hope she DOES realize the role she played and it...I hope she DOES realize the role she played and it haunts her every single day so that she changes her wrong ideas and works to make the changes that her DAUGHTER wanted to make in the world for trans-acceptance.Kit Hohnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16382292021529947046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-24968645213485316902015-01-03T05:05:28.299-05:002015-01-03T05:05:28.299-05:00The Cool Cookie is right; we all grieve in differe...The Cool Cookie is right; we all grieve in different ways for different people<br /><br />In some ways I hope Leelah's mother never realises the crucial role she and her husband played in their daughter's death. The knowledge that you were responsible for the death of your child would impose a guilt that for me would be impossible to live with. But that's me, not her; maybe Leelah's mother's god would support her with the guilt. <br /><br />And Bob, you are right too, children need love; not unconditional love, we have to lay ground rules. But accepting a child for who they are is one of the basics. Some things cannot be learned, like sexual orientation or intelligence, they are part of who we are and MUST be accepted by parentsHelen Lashbrookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14806155400041511316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-2852203024399216472015-01-02T22:00:14.124-05:002015-01-02T22:00:14.124-05:00@Cookie
I don't damn her for her grief, I damn...@Cookie<br />I don't damn her for her grief, I damn her for the way she treated her daughter in life.Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15302478126147924237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-8651330859333488582015-01-02T20:54:11.691-05:002015-01-02T20:54:11.691-05:00Whenever I read of others criticizing the grieving...Whenever I read of others criticizing the grieving process of loved ones, I am reminded of the woman who said to me that she was appalled that I was not prostate with grief when my mother died, because "she" was very upset when her mother died. But for me, there was great sadness, but closure because my mother had been terribly ill in the end, and I had been with her when she passed. There were no things left unsaid between us. She loved me and I loved her - we knew that - and facing that she wasn't going to better. Seeing her in pain was the worst imaginable suffering either of us had been through. When she died, I was at peace, but I miss her to this day something fierce. <br /><br />On the other side, when my father, with whom I had had one of the worst possible relationships died a thousand miles away from me, with things left unsaid, immovable in his opinions as I was in mine - he, my first sexual partner, and thus my abuser - a man who made me physically ill to be around, I was a totally mess for two years. I cried. I cried. I cried because I could not fix it, and there was nothing to fix. He physically, mentally and sexually abused me and I cried because my daddy was dead, and I could not fix it, I could not. And I eventually had a nervous breakdown, the old fashioned way. <br /><br />I tell you this - the people who damn this mother, because everyone's grief reaction at the loss of someone they love - even if we can't understand that love, is different.<br /><br />This woman needs to walk her own path. And while many of us clearly see her hand in her denial in her child's life, it shouldn't surprise us that she also can't see her own hand in her child's death. <br /><br />Don't damn her - this is one of those moments where I fell we have to send this woman the strength she needs to wake up, see what she did to her child and that she she spends the rest of her days doing what her "son" would want her to do on his behalf, which is accept him as her "daughter", and help other bull headed parents see the compassionate truth of accepting their children as she could not and thus avert the additional loss of life. <br /><br />If good has to come from this, then justice is that she owns her daughter's mission, <br /><br />The Cool Cookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04162345087029159056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-81405124960729215642015-01-02T20:35:43.973-05:002015-01-02T20:35:43.973-05:00There is another victim in this that no one is tal...There is another victim in this that no one is talking about. The truck driver. <br /><br />Leelah involved him or her in her suicide, with knowing their feelings about human life. That is part of this tragedy that everyone seems to have forgotten. <br />The Cool Cookiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04162345087029159056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-63486172079526121952015-01-02T19:58:45.441-05:002015-01-02T19:58:45.441-05:00The mother wouldn't even admit that she commit...The mother wouldn't even admit that she committed suicide. In her statement she said thsg her "son" went for a walk and got hit by a truck. Despicable! Professor Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07983291640844939759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-67401668045647565172015-01-02T17:53:28.514-05:002015-01-02T17:53:28.514-05:00Hopefully this tragic experience will enlighten a ...Hopefully this tragic experience will enlighten a few people for future Leelahs. xoxoxothe dogs' motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11512888563325865616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19466193.post-24958802130390577802015-01-02T17:08:45.606-05:002015-01-02T17:08:45.606-05:00bitch. I hope her conscience haunts her til she d...bitch. I hope her conscience haunts her til she dies a horrible death.anne marie in phillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11765140782182605141noreply@blogger.com